The Learned

We need to find the main cause for this -- usually when someone important to them does not value them enough -- usually a male figure, like a father or an older male doesn't show that they value them as much, they can tend to feel valueless. Or if they have done something embarrassing which they feel could make them feel less valued by society, etc. or if they feel like they've made a wrong decision and regretted it. Two wrongs doesn't make a right. This is why I feel that surrounding her with good people who will value her is important. She needs to know she deserves love and is highly valued -- precious. I would change school or homeschool if I were you. Also, give her new friends by attending safer social events like HouseYouth on Adelaide Rd (Fridays, 6.30pm) or Bridge Youth on Darling Avenue (Fortnightly, Thursdays, 6.30pm). There's also Energize Youth on Seventh Street (Fortnightly, Saturdays 6.30pm) -- any youth groups for that matter. They have people who genuin...

Totally disagree about finding time for yourself. Don't think it's important. I think it's a selfish illusion. Can't find biblical basis for it. Reading on this post is already self indulging so I guess if you can read this post, you've achieved your self indulging for today...  My two cents.. probably not worth a penny

Plenty of fish in the sea, if you ask me.  After all, what's the point knowing that one day after growing old together, both of you will die - someone will be right and someone will be wrong.. and you will be separated from eternity. If you're really sure your religion will bring you to a safe place, like heaven, wouldn't you want your loved one to be there? I think this is worth thinking about because nobody wants to get into a car and not know where they are headed to but just about everyone does that when it comes to relationships.

When my kids were 5 and under, I didn't even let them go to Sunday School even though the church had one. I wanted them in the service, in the presence of God with me. I brought a rug, toys, food, you name it. The secret really, is not giving them everything at once. I don't roll out my plan until the sermon has begun. This means that during the worship, my kids are worshipping with me -- I hold their hands (usually the youngest), to do some dance actions. The oldest will just stand or do their own. And when it gets to the end, I would hug them and worship standing, swaying until the littlest would fall asleep. Which is usually the case. If they're not asleep by then, I roll out the big plan. I start off with food, not even the rug. Literally one piece of cereal at a time until things get really restless, and then I bring in a different type of food. Like a half boiled egg with shells on. It will take some time to peel it off (of course with a container under). At this poin...

God is a God of law and order. He created all the laws: mathematical law, the law of gravity, even the laws of our country which derived from the ten commandments. The top scientists and mathematicians are all very godly people. Even the one who created the first calculator, and how it links to the computer and now to AI. Watch more about it here: https://youtu.be/XGUuaUzDhII?si=z0gJtXHho1idbVyN

Tell him stories of standing up for his faith, of martyrs in the past and in the New Testament. And the verses: if you deny me before men, I will deny you. And "take up your cross and follow me" and "he who has lost houses, or mothers or brothers for my sake". All these are important lessons -- more important than English or Math, because their eternal lives depend on it.  Also, if after all that, he is feeling ashamed, remind him of how Jesus still accepted Peter after Peter denied him 3 times, asking him to feed His lambs and sheep. There's still hope. 

Looking for recommendations for good family values to focus on for next year? Here's my two cents: I think this is something to pray about and ask God to show you and your husband for this year. We don't know what's coming in the year ahead but God knows and He will prepare us for it way ahead of time so when the time comes, our kids are well grounded.

It's the same game. The rate of reproduction will never match up to the rate of immigration. These abortions are just making it worse. And with all these young kids butchering their reproductive organs and eating hormone blocking pills, etc. It's the world's first self ethnic cleansing regime. Not just suicidal culture but culture suicide, not just cancel culture but a self-cancelled culture.

I'm sorry. The pain is real. Unfortunately, only time can heal. The amount of time your relationship lasted for is usually the amount of time you would need to get back on your feet....  My advice:  1. Stay away from other guys for now, let it heal, or you'll end up in another relationship prematurely. 2. Spend time with the Lord and let Him be the One. 3. Be patient and let time heal it. 4. Meanwhile, do that which makes you happy. Even if it means finding a hobby or playing a favorite game. Get your mind off it. What you need to do eventually: 1. Get rid of everything he gave you, delete all his photos and photos of you together. It's called getting rid of soul ties. 2. Let him go. Imagine shutting the door and sending him into outer space or something.

Read 'Wild at Heart' by John Eldredge They don't like to be challenged, I think not. More like, needing us to build their confidence by saying, "You can do it." and "You have what it takes." and needs to be said by the father or a man they look up to. I'll need to explain -- there's something about guys that need to know if they have what it takes to be a man. And that needs to come from another man. The book also talks about gender assurance, and how the X and Y chromosomes are determined by the man. That's why men have a certain authority when it comes to gender assurance, on both sons and daughters. When dad says, "You have what it takes" to his son or "You are beautiful" to his daughter, it has a greater impact on gender assurance than if Mom were to say it. It's a powerful book. I highly recommend it. The opposite is true, tho -- without a father or father figure in their lives, boys feel that they don't have ...

Learn a new way to prayer. Intercession is standing in the gap as we know it. And what that may look like sometimes will sound something like this, "As my daughter, (insert name here), I apologize for my wrong behavior. And I ask You Lord Jesus to come into my life and make all things new. Please transform my heart and mind. Help me to know You as my Lord and Savior, as my Father and as my best Friend. Please show Yourself real to me. I really need You today." And pray that everyday. We are not fighting against flesh and blood but principalities and powers and rulers of darkness. Secondly, my suggestion is homeschool.

 

You are still a father. Your child is in Heaven, and has angels looking at the face of God in Heaven. You will be reunited with your child one day. Don't lose heart. Watch " Heaven Is for Real " and read the book. And you will make a great father to so many more, both biologically and spiritually.

Each of my children give a gift to each family member because the best part of Christmas is giving.  As a child, nobody asked me to give but my parents were pastors and I always saw my mom wrapping gifts for the whole church throughout Christmas Eve night and I just caught the spirit of giving, I guess. I started making and wrapping all kinds of presents for my siblings since I was about 7, and it carried on to family members and friends, then I added more and more church members over the years until I would end up wrapping gifts for every single church member I could think of and extras for new comers. On Christmas Morning when I got to church, I had about 3-4 XL paper bags of presents to give out to every church member in mind from a baby to the oldest person there... This tradition carried on even until after I got married. So as far as Christmas traditions goes, this memory is what I wanted to pass down to my own children. I start with the family -- each kid buys a gift for eac...

Matt 15:10  When He had called the multitude to Himself, He said to them, “Hear and understand: 

Ironically, it was the most victorious funeral and the most painful worship at the same time. It was raw and open. When Phil Wickham sang Hymn of Heaven, the whole place transformed into heaven itself. I would think I wasn't even there. It was an eternal moment. I could just have died there and felt like I've made it to heaven. It was the perfect picture of reaching heaven without first dying. Cheesy as it may sound, it was the literal composite of heaven on earth. I had never experienced anything like that before. I can't explain it -- it's something I would have to pinch myself to get out of. But it was real. I was blown away. I did not just see it, it was like I was there. The elders, the angels, the throne, the heroes of the faith, Jesus, Charlie, the cloud of witnesses, you name it, every martyr, every disciple that ever served the Lord, from the Old Testament to the New Testament, -- they were all there. And the fact that I saw it all,... I was speechless. Just no...

His money is your money. You work at home, make sure the house is where he wants to go home to. Taking care of a baby costs a lot if you send to day care. So you're doing a great job. I've been a stay home Mom of 3 by now and I know the frustration of not bringing anything to the table so I help without leaving the house: I sell stuff on Marketplace, I care for chickens to get some eggs, I babysit twice a week. It does contribute without the guilt of leaving your kid.  You are in a small window of having a toddler which will pass. It's not going to last long.

Spoke the Truth And died defending it Martyred His martyrdom is merely a failed attempt at assassinating the truth. Charlie Kirk was the voice we didn't have. Now,... it's up to us to speak up.. Not everybody gets to die a hero But everybody gets a choice to be one Please pray for Charlie Kirk's family. This was a strategic move by the enemy. They seem to recognize a potential threat before we do. Sometimes, we don't know what we have until we lose it. Charlie Kirk was a threat to them, just like Trump is a threat to them. They just want to get rid of some of the finest we have. By hook or by crook. Only shows how desperate and evil they truly are. There is no fair play, no rules. Just war. No, really. If it's a war they want, it's a war they're going to get.  We all need to take his death personally because it is an attack against us, Christians. And until we can rise up to replace him, we shall mourn. The World mourns for Charlie Kirk And for Free Speech  ...

Question:  Help. Hubby picks on me and says I need to lose weight. He doesn't compliment me or pay any attention to me. He wants a vec but I want more kids. What should I do? Answer:  Don't focus on the negative. Focus on the positive. If you want to pick on all the reasons why you should break up, there will be plenty. Start counting on the reasons to keep this marriage. There will be equally much if not more. Marriage is hard work. From both sides. And more than not, you will always feel like you're on the side that does all the work.  The Bible says that our body does not belong to us. And being on the heavy side is not good for health either. There's nothing to lose losing weight but weight.  Don't take it personally. To cut the long story short, you're trying to say that your hubby is not into you. I'm not saying he is. You could be right. But that's because marriage takes work. When you plant a seed, it grows. But you need to water it. Work means y...

Husband, you need to lower yourself, in humility. You need to accept that she is, at the moment, more spiritually inclined and she has something you don't, yet. But you will. So remain in this humility and lower yourself until that happens. If not, it will cause frustration in your marriage. Wife, raise your husband to where you are. Raise him in prayer. This does not mean that he cannot lead. He is still the spiritual authority. He may not teach you the Bible, but he holds the key. And you have to submit, and let him unlock the door to your home. One day, he will keep up. But within the time that God has appointed for him. Do not try to speed things up. It will only cause disappointment.

My eldest came back into my room today after her nightime prayer. She was worried about her calling being totally different from what she has set her heart to be or do. Of course, I told her the usual -- "Don't worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will worry about itself." I was tired and sleepy, and so was she. I just really needed her to go to her bed at this point and not get worked up about the future. And yes, it was good advice, especially if it's got her this worked up. I, for one, did not worry about my future. For some reason, I just seem to be really ambitious all the time. From wanting to start my own kindergarten at nine, to wanting to be a millionaire missionary at ten, to wanting to build a campus when I was thirteen, it just kept getting bigger and better, and always more or less on the same line. It was like I saw it coming. And yes, it may seem like different things to the naked eye, but it really was the same thing. We talked about the differences betwe...

Communication is key here. He needs to hear how you feel and what you expect moving forward. I'm sure you have tried your best to let him know all that but remind him about your requirements. Then again, Jesus said forgive up to 70 x 7. This applies to marriages as well. I wanted to walk out a couple of times and prayed about it but God gave me a book, chapter and verse and this is what I got. Not once.  Fight for your marriage, not your rights. You have every right to walk out but you have every right to stay.

Perhaps try YouTube classes. We don't spend any money on co-ops or classes. Are there any free community classes in your area or at the library? What we did was run free classes ourselves. I run some at my home and some at the local library -- business classes, etc. so my kids have other kids to have classes with.  Also, I babysit once a week and make sure it doesn't disrupt our schedule much. But what really brought in income for us was to sell furniture that we got for free. Sometimes, it doesn't need to be large furniture -- just items that people put out on the street and free items on Facebook marketplace

If there's one thing I know about kids rooms, it all boils down to making memories, not the actual outcome. No matter how nice something is, if the preparations were filled with arguments, it would bring bad memories. And no matter how terrible something looks, if it was made with love, it would bring good memories.

When my kids played Among Us, they kept giving each other chores to do. I was so surprised when one of them was assigned to "Help Mom". LOL I was thinking like.. this is a good game!!!

Is your house continually in a mess?  Number one to cleaning anything is making sure you are physically and mentally capable -- if you have enough supplements and insufficient sleep, you'll get mom brain anyway. Also one apple on an empty stomach has more caffeine than coffee. I do not want my body to get used to caffeine. I eat apples first thing in the morning now. It works. Also I stop carbs for lunch so I don't get sleepy after. When it comes to cleaning up the mess, I realized that it's always necessary to get to the root of the issue - the one who made that mess needs to clean up that mess. I know some messes were not created by someone capable of cleaning it -- toddler, guests, etc. and sometimes even.. hubby. But for the mess that was created by that person, especially the older kids, they need to clean up. If you clean up after them, they will never learn not to mess up and the house will never be clean It's tempting to just pick up after them especially if it...

It's a good time to talk about Sodom and Gomorrah... We are not sheltering our kids. We are keeping them for the right time. Jesus was not revealed to the world until he was 30. John the Baptist was in the wilderness for a long time, too. Moses was in the wilderness too. There is a period of preparation that our kids need to go through before they can "Go into all the world".  I talk more about that in my book, Kingdom Heirs: Raising Future Generations as World Leaders.

Please don't give up. Remember Smith Wigglesworth. There is hope. Pray for your husband everyday. I have a secret formula that I just found out recently -- intercession -- it's not what I thought it was. It's more than just crying on behalf of someone. It's praying on behalf of someone, like, Nehemiah, "Forgive us," he prayed on behalf of his forefathers. This means praying for your husband be like, "On behalf of my husband, Lord, Jesus, I pray, forgive my sins and help me to be more like You, help me to be a good dad and help me to draw close to You. Use me to be a mighty man of God, etc....." and just allow the Holy Spirit to lead you to pray him into the man He wants him to be. Things only took a turnaround on about the 9th year or so. It was so bad that even when I tried date night, like playing a board game with him, he will be on his phone playing his game. His heart was not into us at all. I learned from one of these godly moms in the comments...

It's not up to either of you nor is it our place to advice you. You both need to pray and seek the Lord for guidance on this. The Lord has led us as a family from one place to another. There is a time to move and there is a time to stay put. Ask the Lord for guidance. Also, submission to your husband and saving your marriage is more important than money. How to Pray: Both of you, go to a room, whether alone or together, close your eyes, ask God to give you guidance on whether to move or stay, and ask Him for a book, chapter and verse. Then wait for it with eyes closed. Wait for the book, chapter number and verse number. Read the whole chapter anyway, including the key verse.  It's hard the first few times but you'll get it over time, do it everyday as devotion. Get a notebook or Google Drive to write down what God is saying. Then match your verse and understanding with his. After a few days, you kind of know where this is going.

Hi there, this would have been me when I was 25. I was a pastor and single and can totally relate. I also had my own company at that time, which was like a tuition and homeschooling center while I was the children's ministry pastor and worship led at the main service and preached at youth services.  Hearing God's voice is key. My husband was spiritually much younger than me. And 4 years younger as well. Before we got together, he was a Bible School student, and I was a Bible School lecturer. He also worked for me part time. His first language wasn't English and we couldn't really communicate well. He was from interstate. I knew his parents (church leaders) since I was young but we weren't friends then. So I guess you can say we met in Bible School but we were barely friends either because of the language barrier. But to cut the long story short, someone who questioned him revealed to me that he liked me so I prayed and fasted about it without him knowing that I knew...

Best resource is The Bible. We do JesusSchooling meaning we go from Genesis to Revelations each year, with all subjects incorporated into it. It's a method of schooling, not a curriculum. So this means that the textbook is the Bible and any other resource can accompany it.  In your situation, it's really about matching the right STEM activities with the right Bible Stories.

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First of all, the foundation of this is very wrong. To me a least. There's no such thing as 50-50. Everyone does their best in this marriage. And love, work and chores can't be measured. Once you go down that road, you are bound for disaster. At the end of that road is fighting for your rights, "not my job", "do your job", etc. Disaster. A lot of couples have no idea. They split 50-50 like it's a business partnership. Once there is a split of jobs, there is a split in the marriage. The foundation of that mindset is not love but rights. You will end up splitting your assets and custody of your kids.. Never go down that road. The only way a marriage will work is if everyone does 110% and above. It's never easy. There's no one way to a marriage.  Hacks? I can give you a few. First off, don't expect a perfect home. There will be nights when everyone is flat out and the dishes are not done. But the marriage stays. There are days when someone is si...

First of all, we are Christians and we have to realize that making YouTube is not just a channel for income but it's a powerful tool for transforming lives. As long as you see it as a ministry, it doesn't matter how much you earn. Secondly, I am saving up for YouTube -- not saving money, but videos. You need to learn how the system works -- the income depends on your subscription and view hours per 1 year. So the moment you begin your channel, keep posting and don't stop. I save videos also because I don't want people to see my kids but I don't mind them seeing them a couple of years later. So their faces have changed by the time the first video comes out.

Lack of sleep is one of the causes. Another is hunger. I know it's simple but if we pay attention to these two things, it is surprising how different a human can be. Try to have meals on the table an hour earlier i.e. 11am lunch 5pm tea. Because I realized that my hubby gets angry just before lunch and just before tea. And snack at 10am and fruit breaks at 3pm helps a ton. Just pay attention to the times he gets angry -- usually before meals. My husband also had a snoring issue. He had chronic sleep apnea but improved so much when he's on the cpap. He can last without the CPAP if I turn him to face down on the pillow until he can breathe normally while he sleeps.

My eldest daughter is gentle but the two younger ones are very different. She has been screaming a lot nowadays. She's 11. I have to tell her to stop screaming. She can't tolerate the other two and she doesn't know how to handle them. Some kids, especially boys (not my daughter) are into sarcasm at this age. If that's yours, perhaps pay attention to the shows and books he has been into and their tone.  And if he says something hurtful, do get back to him on that and let him know it hurts and tell him not to say things like that to other people because of how hurtful it can be. Communication is key. And openness -- if you can be open to him, he can be open to you  Also, if it's not the books or vids he has been into, perhaps the friends.. I homeschool my kids so I can be more aware of their influences..

If he needs a Slide presentation done, that would help a great deal. I can give you a few pointers on how to make slides for a sermon. It's a ministry in itself -- you'll need the Holy Spirit to show you which pictures to put and what to highlight, which fonts to use, make sure it's large and clear and in point form, not paragraph form, etc Also giving him time off to be alone to prep is great. And enough sleep for him. Even reminders for when he has a sermon coming up

Slip n Slide, water channels with aqua ducts using PVC for boat race, etc. Make a cubby, build a pond, build a dry creek, a fairy garden (or miniature garden), build a mud kitchen, build an underground green house, etc. Build a willow playhouse but for squash or some other vegetable creeper so they can play in it and have vegetables to harvest at the same time.

First of all, motive. Fast to draw close to Him, and don't let anyone know that you're fasting. Matthew 6:16-18  For a Full Fast: Just tell them that you're taking some time off will be booked on those dates and can't be contacted during those periods.  Turn your phone on silent mode. It's basically only for emergencies, or else, don't answer at all. Lock yourself in your room. Matthew 6:6-7 Drink lots of water if you're going on a full fast. If you're living with others, only go out of the room to get more water. What you actually do: No work, no play, just fast and pray. And worship and Word and talk to Him and draw close to Him. And write down what He says. Do your devotion.

You'd probably want to start with church history and how it started from the book of Acts and went through the dark ages and came out of it. And how some moved on to discover more lost truths and some remained. Think of it like a river, and some choose to stay, creating pools while others move on.. My dad used to teach me and I learned it from him in Bible School.. he's really deep and quick and to be honest, after listening to him for the last 3 decades or so, I still can't grasp all of it. But he always draws it as a river, with pools branching out of it. And then with unreadable handwriting all over that. I guess you can start off with Generations and some Kevin Swanson books on church history but I haven't read any of them yet. I just think that they should be rather complete. As for the last few denominations.. i.e. Apostolic and Prophetic, you wouldn't be able to find any books, I don't think. Because after Apostolic and Prophetic would be Kingdom Ideology...

There has to be a balance. Taking care of the business is taking care of your husband but you do not have to choose between one or the other. Your job doesn't depict who you are. Remain humble inside especially towards your husband. It is a challenge but with God's grace, you can do this. He needs you. Being feminine has nothing to do with the outer appearance but the heart. And nobody can take that away from you. This verse is for you: Jeremiah 31:22 For the Lord has created a new thing in the earth— A woman shall encompass a man.” Encompass means to protect. I married my employee. My husband was working for me but God called us into a marriage. While I prayed for His will, God told me that if there should be any arguments that arise, it is my fault because of my pride. Because I was older (4 years), I had a master's degree while he only had a diploma (I have a doctorate now), I ran a company (he was my employee), I was better in English (it was his second language), I was...

I've read so many posts about women in a "toxic marriage". Christian women trying to fight for their rights in a "toxic marriage" can be very judgemental and not full of love but full of unforgiveness and anger. Women feel they have rights and we do. But sometimes you need to choose between your rights and your marriage, and no, you can't always have both but if I have to choose between fighting for my rights and fighting for my marriage, I'll pick fighting for my marriage because I gain nothing fighting for my rights. The world teaches us to fight for our rights but we are not of the world. It may sound shocking to the world, but there is no honor in fighting for your rights. And definitely no reward. If you dig deeper, it's about pride. And I don't want to fight for pride. I want to fight for something worth more -- love. Love is worth fighting for, not rights. Choose love. Words like "toxic marriage" and "toxic family" are ...

A lot of single women have too much idealism on their dream guy -- godly, loving, etc. With expectations come disappointments. Not everyone's marriage starts off with a guy all out for God. Some take years to cultivate this. I wish young Christian ladies will shake off that fantasy mindset and learn to settle for anything that God has put on their plate. When several women get the love of their lives, they make it a cookie cutter for all the other single Christian women. It's not always like that. Sometimes the guy that God has for you is not the ideal spiritual guy you have been waiting for because for some people, you have to pray him into it and it takes years and yet, somehow, this is the guy God has for you. I'm not God. And I don't ask why.

My mom saw Jesus twice. One was when she was pregnant. Jesus came through the window and took her by the hand and led her out through the window and showed her an answer to a decision she had to make. The second time was when she was praying in her prayer room behind locked doors. Jesus came and took her by the hand. She saw her body still kneeling on the floor. He brought her through the door and walked her to where the kids slept and told her what will happen to each one. Then walked her to where the church workers were doing their devotions in their pyjamas and told her who would be leaving and why. And then brought her back to her prayer room and her spirit entered her body again. When she went for breakfast with the church workers, they were wearing the exact same outfits so she knew it wasn't a vision but she actually went there in the Spirit. After praying for the food, all refused to eat but just stared at her. When she asked why, one of them said, "Pastor Lily, we wil...

Doing it for your kids makes you the hero. Don't consider it a small thing. Its a huge sacrifice and you are greatly honored for that. You made the right choice. They need you now more than ever and it's all worth it. You're pouring into lives. Sometimes, a mom is like a seed. And the seed has to die for new growth. But one day, you will realize that the time you have with them is so fleeting. So don't focus on what you are not but what you have. A few years left with them. Treasure it and you will blossom these last few years with them. If I were you, I would take them off school and homeschool them and try nature schooling or homesteading and just enjoy these precious moments. They don't last for long but they bring such healing.

To be honest, nobody is asked to pay taxes to support large families. The amount of taxes we pay are based on our income, and is not affected by other people's amount of kids. The government decides where the funds go. They can decide to give it to kids, or they can decide to give to LGBTQ+ causes. Kids are people, too. And our tax funds should be divided per head, not per family.

Forgiveness is always the key, and not for him, but for you. Laughing at your dad's misfortune is going to make you feel guilty. I suggest against it especially if he is reaching the end of his life. And you want this to end well. People change.  If your mom still spoke well of your dad growing up, she did the right thing because having a dad is something all kids need.  I know he wasn't perfect but the truth is, many dads don't pay much attention to their kids. Sometimes we seek the ideal but the reality is that men are men. Of course, there are some sparkling examples which are difficult to come by but the truth is, he is just being a guy. And most guys are like that to be entirely honest. Don't expect too much.. it's not the ideal but it's the stats. I'm not saying he is blameless. I am saying, he is just a drop in the bucket. It's unfortunate, it is. But being disappointed is not helping yourself or your conscience, so don't hold anything against...

What's the use of knowledge without understanding, experience without maturity, words of wisdom without the substance of integrity, strong will without depth in character, godly values without godly fear, practicality without faith, and love that is conditional? - Anna Grace Low, 2009 I should add in a few more: What's the use of mercy without forgiveness, courage without hope, joy without first knowing sorrow, beauty without appreciation, directions without realizing you're lost, freedom without passion, friends without time, and life without purpose.

I believe the heart for stories come from stories. A couple of good books should do the trick. If he doesn't like reading, start with telling bedtime stories. I turn off the lights and come up with my own stories. When I was 6, my sister played a game with me. She would start a story with a sentence and have me continue it. We'll take turns. This gave me the confidence to write stories. I realized that anything could happen in a story and that the more I wrote, the more I knew what the story was about. Try it and include a couple of kids in one game. They can sit in a circle and take turns.

 "Train the child in the way she should go." She doesn't have to go now. It means you have to teach her at home first. And cultivate that desire to know Him, and to hear His voice and to be with Him. It's not about whether or not she goes to church. That's not the point of the verse. It literally means you teaching her, not sending her to someone else to be taught.

1. She has to clean up 2. No access to art supplies 3. Full attention required at all times. Difficult but true. You basically have to tie her to yourself.

He's in a better place. Talking and screaming to God is definitely ok. I hope u don't get to that place but if that's all that comes up, then it might just have to do because God hears and He listens. He knows and He is with you right now. Turning you into a widow is definitely not the plan. And not everything bad that happens is God's fault. But all things work out for good to those that love Him and are called according to His purposes. And He will turn your sorrow into joy. He will turn things around for you. I'm sure of it.

as two nations mourn the death of a young girl laid to rest in peace finally she now lives eternally - Tribute to Megan, 2015-2020

Been there. It hurts and you wish it didn't. She's moved on but what you've got is an imagination of a potential that there might be something there for you but there really isn't and no, she's not going to change her mind about you. There's zero chance. You might even lose her as a friend. That's sad, too. The truth is things will never be the same again. Yes, you've got to let her go, both as a potential and a friend. That's love. To love a person so much, that you would let them go and be free to love someone they really do love, even if that person is not you. I don't usually say this, but go find a game you like to play, get some dopamine and enjoy yourself. She's gone. Also, depending on how long you have been close, that's how long it usually takes to get over it... 

He washes you clean by His blood.  1 John 1:7 But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin. You also need to confess with your mouth:  1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. When all that is done, forgive yourself.

That's not nice. I hate having to do something that gives me anxiety. But then again, just about every job we have will give us a certain amount of it. If I were you, I'd try to forge a plan where I only have a certain amount of years left to do this while I work towards getting myself out of that misery. For example, save enough to buy a property you can rent out or learn to do some crypto trading. Something with less anxiety but enough to earn as much.

Brothers not asking how you're doing after you have left the nest?  I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters. Trust me, it's a guy thing. Don't take it personally. They mean well, just not very sociable. Think of a way you can still contribute to their lives and talk about something good you have in common.

Age is nothing. Nobody is counting. Also, don't wait till you graduate to write. Start a blog or YouTube channel and start writing now. If you don't have it in you, a degree is not going to help.

Just keep trying. Sometimes you feel like nothing is coming out but it is. But if you wait, it will just dry up. Keep on letting him suck directly instead of a pump. That will help to lubricate things which triggers the breast to produce. Try to avoid the pump for now. Also, if it bleeds or dries up, breast milk is the best thing to bring healing. Food that will help in milk production: high omega 3 foods with high content of good oils or good fats, i.e. salmon belly, avocado, etc. because milk is mostly made of fats. Salmon belly is cheaper than the rest of the salmon because they have bones but their oil content is also so high that nobody really enjoys eating it. Due to the high oil content, just fry it on a non-stick without adding any cooking oil. Add salt and slices of citrus for flavour. They will turn sweet and their tartness will make the salmon more palatable so you can eat in larger quantities without getting tired of eating too much. ...and dirty diapers mean your baby is g...

Resurrection Sunday is not Easter. While many think they are just calling Easter something else, those who celebrate Resurrection Sunday would strongly protest if you suggested they were celebrating Easter. Why is that? Because Easter has nothing to do with the Resurrection, no matter what Wikipedia says about it. The word, 'Easter', itself came from the word, 'Eostre', a goddess which has nothing to do with Christianity. Therefore, Easter and Resurrection Sunday are NOT the same thing at all. Those who celebrate Easter do so with eggs and bunnies. On the other hand, those who celebrate the Resurrection do so with Christ. Christians who celebrate Easter to celebrate the Resurrection, should consider celebrating Resurrection Sunday instead. Resurrection Sunday is actually linked to the passover. Although many would follow the date of Easter and choose that day to celebrate Resurrection Sunday, the best time to celebrate Good Friday and the Resurrection is always during t...

That is true. Sin separates us from God. Isaiah 59:2 NKJV.  But your iniquities have separated you from your God; And your sins have hidden His face from you, So that He will not hear. Therefore, ask God to forgive your sins. 1 John 1:8-9  If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Chinese people are descendants of Abraham. When Sarah passed away, Abraham married Keturah but he had other concubines besides that. Any offspring he had from these concubines were sent towards the East (China).  Genesis 6:25 But Abraham gave gifts to the sons of the concubines which Abraham had; and while he was still living he sent them eastward , away from Isaac his son, to the country of the east . In the past, scholars believed that China was the land of Sinim mentioned in Isaiah 49:12: Surely these shall come from afar; Look! Those from the north and the west, And these from the land of Sinim .” However, this theory was proven wrong. The land of Sinim was indeed the eastern province of Egypt, land of Syene, southern Egypt, near Aswan. Matthew 2:1 Now after  Jesus was born in Bethlehem of Judea in the days of Herod the king, behold,  wise men  from the East came to Jerusalem, Between 6 B.C. and 4 B.C., not many countries had the technology and adv...

Hate leaving my littles in the car alone on a hot day and either have the car engine running without me in it or have them suffer till I come back. 

Thank you for colonizing instead of wiping everyone off this island. I'm glad the British came, and not some ruthless country. They brought hospitals, schools and civilization. And did not simply destroy everything and everyone in sight. The dead cannot protest. The fact that so much culture still remains today is reason to celebrate Australia Day.

It's something all Christians should be having -- anyone who REALLY WANTS the Lord should be able to do all that. It's called being a Christian. Your desire for God is genuine but what you really need at this point is to hear His voice in order to develop your relationship to the point of intimacy with God. I am beginning a Bible study end of Jan. It's online and on site. Happy to teach you how to hear from God and to sharpen your spiritual ears so to make it more accurate. It's important to hear Him not just on a daily basis, but 24/7.

Had a miscarriage after 3 healthy children. It's never easy. I guess it's harder for those who have kids because they know what it's like for this kid to actually grow up.  It's not your fault. It's easy to think about what you might have done wrong -- don't. It's not you. Also, this baby is in Heaven and you will meet him/her one day. This baby will never be lost but will always have eternal life. And that's what counts. You can't go wrong with this one.

The natural way is for animals to naturally come to humans for help in times of desperation and the natural thing for humans to do is feed. We are nature. So be natural and feed. Sometimes we forget what is the natural thing to do.

It is in times like this that you need to pause, take a step back and restart everything. This is your opportunity to think outside the box. If no one has RSVPed, there's really nobody to please but yourselves.  My greatest wedding regret is to have my family say they are coming and then hide in a room somewhere during the entire meal leaving the whole table empty except my parents, his parents and my godparents' family. My four siblings and their families all hid in another room because one of them told the rest that there wasn't enough food....  To cut the long story short, don't please anyone but yourselves on that day. You might even consider eloping.... Just think outside the box maybe? My brother had his on a cruise.. Weddings are once in a lifetime so even though it's not fun planning it now, please try to make it as fun as possible, because if it's not, the wedding can't be fun either. Sometimes it can be a reflection of how much you've enjoyed e...

Feed directly and skin to skin if possible at all, and as much as possible. Also have lots of sleep whenever the baby is sleeping, and find other moms with bubs to share with.. I'm sorry you have to go through this.. try to make yourself happy and comfortable.. try to enjoy the baby -- dressing up, etc. and buying stuff for baby. If you have financial issues, family, marriage or other issues, that can worsen the experience.. it might help to seek for external help - food bank is open, churches are open, and it helps to blog and join some Facebook groups that you can open up on. But know that you are an amazing mom. You don't have to do anything to make yourself a better Mom than you already are. You are perfect. And your baby just needs you.

Some men propose and then sound like they want nothing to do with the wedding, starts withdrawing and then talk about work a lot. As his fiance, you panic, thinking he is didn't really want to get married at all, and sees this as a red flag.  Chill. It's not like that at all. Perhaps talk to him about this but know one thing -- men often feel defeated when they feel like there is something they should be doing but unable to do it. In this case, perhaps he did not expect the cost of wedding to be this high. I am guessing he just wanted to marry you because he loved you and wanted to spend the rest of his life with you but did not expect weddings to cost this much and is embarrassed to tell you or did not want to disappoint you. Instead of being frank with you, he tries to hint and starts emphasizing about work and earning more, saying stuff like "can't take a day off". But you're so excited that you didn't get the drift... He's probably hoping you could...

1. Pro-Life Vs Pro-Choice 2. LGBTQ+++++++++ 3. Critical Critical Race Theory 4. The National Education System 5. Globalization, One World Nation, Vax Vs X-Vax, etc. 6. Anti-Semitism

AI is bound to happen whether we like it or not. It's like how electronics and the internet is a large part of our lives today. Trying to avoid it is close to impossible. But what we can do is to see it from God's point of view -- how God would like us to view AI and how we can be stewards of this new tech so that we are not part of the group that complains but the group that is using AI for the glory and praise of God. This is my take but read the book, 'Navigating AI with Faith' by Elijah Low, to get a full understanding of AI in God.

Yes, been there. Still on survival mode 13 years later. All I can say, get some sleep.  1. Try to put the baby to sleep and sleep at the same time 2. Priorities -- everything is screaming as priority but you've just got to let some things go because they really aren't. What used to be priority before the baby is no more a priority now. Make sacrifices. 3. Relax a little -- it's ok if the house is in a mess and someone is coming over. It's ok to look like you don't got it. It's okay to look like a failure. It's ok, it's ok, it's ok. Just let it go. Do your best and keep it real.

 Never marry one who is planning for a divorce. All you need is a good chat with your future spouse. If you can't trust him with your money, you can't trust him with your body and you definitely can't trust him with your kids. If you don't trust him, don't marry him. Period. Once you bring up the word, 'prenup', you bring up the word, 'divorce'. Once you bring up the word, 'divorce', marriage is unstable. There's nothing to talk about. It's off.  A marriage built on prenups is not a marriage; it's just a partnership. A marriage with legality at its foundation rather than love and trust is not a marriage; it's a legal partnership with an exit. Marriage has no exit. There is no Plan B. A marriage with a Plan B is a cup with a hole in it. It defeats the purpose of marriage. Might as well reside in a defacto relationship with a prenup. Don't call it marriage. Men who ask for a prenup doesn't love his woman enough to die fo...