Will I really go to Heaven?

Not a crazy question at all, and I am glad you reached out because it is so so important that you have assurance of salvation. It seems to me that what is lacking here is an intimate relationship with the Lord because if you are constantly in a two-way communication, there will be no room for this sort of fear or anxiety because He calls you by name and you hear His voice everyday in your devotion and prayers. Do you hear His voice? If not, find time to read the Bible and ask Him questions or share your heart before reading so that when He replies you on the same topic, you know He is speaking and you are hearing correctly.

The Holy Spirit speaks all the time -- we just need to listen. Worshipping God is like the water you drink, prayer like the air you breathe and the Word like food you eat. 

We pray without ceasing -- prayer is talking to God. We talk to Him about anything and everything from the moment we wake up till the moment we lay our heads and even throughout the night. Prayer is a two-way communication. Keep talking to Him and eventually, He talks back. We just need to recognize His voice. When God speaks, He speaks to our heart. We hear with our hearts, not with our heads. 

When you read the Word, ask Him to show you which book, chapter and verse to read, close your eyes and wait till you see a book, chapter number and verse number, then open to it. But before that, ask Him something regarding your situation so when He replies, you know He speaks.

When you have a wealth of emotion while you worship the Lord, you are worshipping with your heart. Keep it up. Worship is often the easiest when we feel far away from God. It is refreshing indeed -- like water. Worship a few times a day, just sing to the Lord whenever you can -- like drinking water. Can't let a day go by without it.

Jesus Centered Christmas

 Once they know how to read, they get a full NKJV kid bible. I go for the Precious Moments heirloom edition because that's the one my siblings and I received.

A good book will be one that draws them closer to God. I recommend my favourite fiction of all time: Children of the Voice 1,2,3 by Ian Smale

I'm working on a Bible based Advent calendar which goes through Matt 1 and Luke 1-2 with devotionals and activities till Christmas. It's like Elf on the Shelf but letters from mom

Fixed Folding Method

Drawers are a must or everything will land on the floor quicker. Secondly, when it comes to young kids and boys, do the fixed folding method. I don't know what it's called but my nephew sort of invented this way of folding like for travelling where clothes cannot be undone easily but super easy to fold into. You can hit a person with it and it wouldn't come undone.

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLxDf5ulA2oad558JkQX5wh5oIA411kiBN&si=yiYCBShNWyANTyS0

Ranger Folding Playlist

I asked my nephew about it. He sent me this link. It's not as good as my nephew's improvised version but should do the trick

Homeschooling through Chronic Illnesses

If your state still mandates studies in difficult times like this, here are a few options:

Khan Academy will help with Math. 

As for science, get them to focus on a project like inventing something together. Hopefully something that will help their sibling or family cope with the situation. At this stage, they can just focus on brainstorming and research. 

For language arts, have them write ✍🏻 a life story about what is going on right now and how they feel. Try to encourage descriptive words and metaphors. They can also read books that relates to this situation. One of the books I would recommend is Good Morning, Holy Spirit by Benny Hinn. There is a story at the beginning about being in a hospital. It's on Google as a free PDF.

History - read books on when certain chemotherapy and other inventions were made and how certain people in the past fought cancer and lived.

Christmas Presents from the kids

 Christmas is about giving and that's what my kids look forward to. They give each other presents and our budget is way less than $50 per kid. 

For family members, I shop at Salvation army or equivalent. So I buy presents for all the kids and adults including grandma and grandpa. Sometimes I grab a bargain at other places like Kmart or the post office or online. 

Each kid wants to give to each adult. There are 3 kids and 4 adults including grandparents, so each person gets to give 6 gifts. Multiply that by all the kids. I like to give them separate from my hubby as well, so that just adds up... That's a lot of gifts... 

This year, I plan to do it the other way around -- instead of youngest open presents first, it's youngest gives the presents first. So she gets to give to everyone in the family and watch them open the presents she gave them (and wrapped to the best of her ability).

I also have pillowcases in case she doesn't do a good job wrapping and gives up. So the pillowcases would go into the Christmas paper bags. I also have Christmas type cloth to wrap the bigger presents.

Im trying to keep paper wrappers for non family members and family members have reusable like cloth or stockings or pillowcases or gift pouches. I don't mind investing in those because they get reused each year and will save in the long run. Plus, super easy for the kids, and no mess! Just put it in and pull the string!

I'm also doing an Advent calendar from Matt 1 and Luke 1 all the way until Christmas... With devotionals and activities for the kids leading up to the rest of the curriculum for next year because we need to go through the Bible each year.

Also plan to do a really good Birthday Cake for Jesus.. was planning to put something like "Blessed Birthday, Babe" haha 😆

Nursing in Church

 Think you should talk to your church pastors that there's not enough room to nurse in them nursery. Something is not right. They need to rethink the nursery room space. It is a good problem but they need to know about it.

Public Nursing may be convenient but may not be helping our men who are struggling with the issue of lust. We don't want to be a stumbling block in church. Especially when they're not strangers, but people you know. My opinion anyway.

Unless you have ninja skills like half the moms do. I don't use nursing clothes. I just pull my shirt up.

Love and respect

My husband is a changed man now. He still nags every now and then but I let it in one ear, out the other and out the window. The truth is that men nag more than women. It's not just your husband. Don't feel unlucky in any way. You did not get married to a rotten apple. Men are men.

He is now much happier and tries his very best to be nice to the kids. He blows up at them every now and then but is no longer a monster the whole day. He is trying to talk nicely to them and even started 'teasing' with them a little which is really the best he can do. But they seem to like it.

He has finally signed himself up for a course after not working for a year and a half, and not knowing what to do with his life. Now he actually has a plan to take up welding so he can work for a certain company.

He takes the kids to a megachurch nearby but without me -- I refuse to go because I am actually pastoring in my parents church I grew up in, albeit online -- it's been hard for my kids to go to an online church. I'm working on this.

Sometimes we have to choose between saving a situation or saving your marriage. Let him make mistakes. Some people only learn the hard way. Men are some people.

He deserves your respect. At all times. Even when he is wrong. To men, respect is love. They can't tell the difference. Failing to respect is failing to love. Taking over the wheel when he makes a mistake is not respect, and not love.

I have been the only one apologizing the entire time -- I complained to God about that but whenever my husband gets angry at me, He still gives me scripture like "if your brother sins against you and repents, you are still to forgive him up to 77X7 times". And I am like... "But he didn't repent.. I am the one apologizing all the time, this is so unfair!" But I know what God means, I just don't understand why I have to be the one apologizing all the time. I really wanted to call this marriage off so many times. Like what's the point of a marriage without love, right? But there is love -- somewhere in the future, I just couldn't see it yet. 

God wanted me to win my husband over. I am not saying I did, but I can say I tried and it's beginning to look a lot like Christmas.

We are still living with my parents -- we bought a house together -- it was our loan and their down payment. And I know a lot of people wouldn't agree to this but we are asians and in our culture, one of the kids has to live with parents because sending them to aged care is "the most heartless and irresponsible thing one can do".

Divorce is certainly the devil's way out to destroy families for generations-- not just yours but your kids' and their children; it hardly ever ends.

My husband wants me to work to earn 'big money' as I am more highly educated. When we got together, I was actually his employer. So I guess that made me suspicious like -- is he marrying me for the money -- because he keeps nagging about me not working and not bringing in money. But I am a homeschooling mom and my kids come first so it is non-negotiable. He still nags about that but less.

 It all started when I saw someone post about "how can I love my husband more?". It really inspired me and I needed more, but I also needed to fix my marriage so I complained about it in another post, and I thought I was going to get pity parties but I had a nice whipping from more than half the moms about respect, and they turned the tables back on me and made me realize that I wasn't as perfect as I thought. And couldn't figure out how they were right on about certain things that I did not even share. 

So I started giving my husband massages in the morning. Felt super cheap as it went against what I thought of how women should be respected. But I think that was the turning point in my marriage. 

I also learned not to answer back. The stuff he was saying was really 'toxic' and 'bad for my mental health' and many will say, 'verbal abuse', and to get a divorce for my own good but that's all new age woke thinking that has crept into our church. Women are not lame-brained. We aren't that weak. And our loveless marriage is not loveless until both parties give up loving. 

Lately, I also bumped into a reel about asking my spouse, "What can I do to love you today?" And he was so touched that he even asked me back that question. 

So, nothing fancy but I just persist in loving my husband by doing whatever he needs help in, lay my lady-ego aside, and my 'rights' as a women, my 'independence', and 'feminism' -- I am not saying you have any but I sure did. I don't have to prove anything and neither do I need to make him regret everything by "finally leaving" him. 

And I sure can't force him to love me. God gave him a dream that I packed my bags to leave with the kids, and he was totally heartbroken. But I have to say that it was all God and I didn't do that one.

I have no more expectations on him, not even to earn money. I do whatever I can like I am a single mother. And if the house is messy, so be it. I don't tell him to do any chores -- even when he is not working. But on his own, he does the laundry and washes the dishes. A man can't be a man by being told what to do, so I don't tell and I don't expect. He can choose to do nothing and still have my respect and love and he knows that.

The Angry Father

Hungry people are angry people. That’s why it’s so important to make it a point to have fruit time an hour before meals for two reasons: one, to keep anger at bay, and secondly, for enzymes. 

It’s quite obvious who is at fault. And mama bear being mama bear would definitely defend the kids and put dad in his place. Been there, done that. It’s only natural. 

But what is the right thing to do as a mom and wife? Lashing back will only ruin what’s left of that marriage. If the dad complies, calling the dad out privately is the best answer there is. Try to calmly explain the situation to him and encourage him to apologize for his bad behavior.

If he doesn’t comply, just keep quiet or even remind your kids of the importance of speeding up when daddy gives an instruction…… and teach them to communicate better— that should acknowledge that she has heard him and are working on obeying and request extra time if necessary. Then, when daddy is not around, remind them again that they are loved, and that daddy didn’t mean it, and that violence is wrong, and pray for them after. They will certainly meet people like that in the future and they have to learn to deal calmly with them. They’re going to copy everything you do.

I’m guessing, he didn’t just count to three. He was probably nagging before that and was bothered by the fact they weren’t giving him any respect, by not keeping their stuff immediately. For a dad to have to demand respect and obedience to the point of losing his sanity does say something about the respect he thinks he has not been receiving. His actions are all about, “I’m going to teach you a lesson so that you will,…” Let’s fill in the blanks from there: “…obey me immediately and quickly.”

That was the result he wanted. But the way he demanded it was wrong. Kids who respond at that speed should be responding excitedly, not in fear. 

Let’s give him the benefit of the doubt. And not take sides.

Sounds like he had a traumatic past of physical and verbal abuse from his father. And simply doesn’t know better. 

Unfortunately, you might have to have a safe place for your kids to do their work where he will not be affected or even pass by. The kitchen table isn’t it.

1 CORINTHIANS 13 FOR MOMS

If I live in a house of spotless beauty with everything in its place,

but have not love,

I am a housekeeper not a homemaker.

If I have time for waxing, polishing, and decorative achievements,

but have not love,

my children learn cleanliness not godliness.

If I scream at my children when they don’t follow instructions,

get frustrated and fault them for every mess in our house,

and have no grace and love

my children learn that Mom cares more about having things done exactly her way

than about listening to the needs and hearts of her children.

Love leaves the dust in search of a child’s laugh.

Love smiles at the tiny fingerprints on a newly cleaned window.

Love wipes away the tears before it wipes up the spilled milk.

Love picks up the child before it picks up the toys.

Love accepts the fact that I am the ever-present “mommy,”

the taxi-driver to every childhood event,

the counselor when my children fail or are hurt.

Love crawls with the baby, walks with the toddler, and runs with the child,

then stands aside to let the youth walk into adulthood.

Before I became a mother I took glory in having it altogether.

Now I glory in knowing that God’s in control and His grace is sufficient for each day.

All the projections I had for my house and my children

have faded away into insignificance,

And what remain are the memories of my kids.

Now there abides in my home scratches on most of the furniture,

dishes with missing place settings,

and bedroom walls full of stickers, posters, and markings,

But the greatest of all is the Love

that permeates my relationships with my children.

-adapted from 1 Corinthians 13 by Jim Fowler

Doubly churched

 Our church we now join online because it is the church I grew up in and the church I am still serving in as a pastor but we have moved overseas. I still preach every weekend and worship lead. My parents are the founders and often go back several times a year. It is complicated indeed.

A year ago, I fell in love with a local church. It was difficult for my kids to cope with an online church so they liked the idea of attending a church on site. My hubby and I served playing the piano there for a year just to “help out” but eventually, was called in weekly. It started to seem like we were regulars when that was not my intention, even though I loved that church deeply. I prayed about it and soon left it. I believe it was not a coincidence that it just so happened to be exactly a year since we stepped into that church. Maybe God allowed us to serve there for a year just to teach me something about ministry.

My husband now takes the kids to a nearby mega church or the Salvation Army on Sundays and then come back to join me and my parents online for church, worship leading, etc. 

It really is complicated and I don’t wish it on anyone else.

That being said, I don’t believe in doing church anymore. And I am sick and tired of what humans have made God’s Kingdom look like. There is no “stealing sheep” or “my church, your church” in heaven. I don’t think Jesus will have to choose one church to attend every Sunday. 

Then again, I believe that church is a spiritual family. And then, there is the matter of commitment and covenant. I believe a church is a family you are called to. And that it is a match made in heaven, so called. 

Rather confusing, as everything else is. Everyone is different and given a different assignment in different seasons.

Content with content

YouTube money can be just from ads for content or by selling a product.

I strongly advise you to pray about what products or what video content to create because it is a ministry and not just about money. Marketplace is a ministry and we are ministers of God and we minister to God in the marketplace. 

What is your calling? You only have one life to live. Time is life. Don't just go where the money is because time can buy money but money can't buy time and time is life. Don't spend your life on money.. money is a servant, which Jesus says to use to buy relationships. We can earn money but by doing what He calls -- seeking His kingdom means focusing your life on your calling and all these wealth will be added unto you.

I'm sure you know all that but sometimes we get carried away and start thinking what to promote to get the money in and what is in demand and then we start to get distracted and before we know it, a couple of decades of our lives are gone making worthless videos that bring in a lot of money but does not enrich the lives of the people watching. So if it's a product the Lord has put on your heart, a product it is. But if it is just content, be content with content. Don't worry about the money.

Lighting the Night

Someone brought up an interesting concept of Halloween that I am still pondering on..

Her post:

"The Night of Halloween"

'Twas the night of Halloween

And all through the town

All the Christians were hiding 

There were none to be found

Their porch lights were off

Their doors tightly locked

And they simply ignored it

If a child came and knocked

They claimed to be standing 

Against evil that night

Yet their decision to hide

Had caused Satan no fright

It was more like a gift 

That they let him run free

Instead of shining out Jesus

For the whole world to see

The children still came home

With bags full of treats 

Yet none could have said 

That his soul had been reached

For on that night that was darkest

The light hid away

Allowing old Satan 

To have his own way

And as I end this I wonder

What would Jesus have done?

When confronted with darkness 

Would he too have run?

Don't dare to believe it

My Christ would not fear

For when Satan came calling 

He would say I AM HERE!

-Written by Pastor Aaron Brant.

This is a copy paste of something one of our pastors wrote, and the reason why we "light the night"

This was written by Aaron Brant.

He was the secondary pastor and recently got his own head pastorship, at Barron Foursquare. 

We don't go out with candles and things, we set up on our porch with lights (Christmas lights on the porch) and some years we've handed out chili along with candy wrapped in a tract with church info, some years we've handed out cocoa/coffee, covid years it was just the candy.

It has such an impact on the community, that for five years after our pastors moved houses people still stopped by asking if this is where the chili is. 

Our goal is to be a light for Jesus, share the gospel and build relationships with the community, so that they want to come visit us and hear the gospel.

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What do you guys think? Some people say it's better than hiding in the basement.

Decision Maker

Is your husband wanting you to make all the decisions?

First, think about him, not you. That’s love, right? Not about your rights as a woman and spouse, but why he is doing what he is doing.

Men are made differently. If you read Wild at Heart by John Eldredge, you’ll have a better understanding — that in their minds, it’s all about “Do I have what it takes to be a man?” But when that man does not have confidence in himself, he would push all decision making on to you. My husband is just the same.

Why he doesn’t have confidence is probably the result of how he was brought up as a child - violence at home, abusive father, etc.

So, now knowing the reason behind it, there are a few things to do as a wife:

1. Make the decisions and take the blame for everything. Your husband has given this job to you because he doesn’t want to take the blame. The truth is, no matter what decision you make, he will complain and point the finger at you. And if you choose not to make the decision, he will be upset with you either way. So just take the blame, the complains, the nagging, etc. but don’t take any of it personally, and definitely don’t take it to heart. Let it out the other ear and out the window.

2. He needs assurance that he does have what it takes to be a man. Praise him for every minor thing he actually does. His inability to provide fhis family is making his self esteem even worse than it was before. So cut him some slack and give him a pet on the back for the slightest of things. Men want to hear that they are needed and wanted. They want to hear that they are a real man. So lots of praise directly and indirectly — tell your kids to respect him and honor him. Be appreciative for everything he does, and love a ton.

3. Lower your expectancies to a complete zero. You heard me. Don’t expect anything at all. Not even taking out the trash. If he wants to do it, let him do it without you mentioning it. Don’t ask him for any favors or to do anything at all if possible. Why? Because he can’t be a man just by following the instructions of a woman — or at least, he won’t think he can. Let him make the initiative. If everything falls on you and you can’t cope and end up with a dirty house and get scolded for it, so be it. Let the complains be in the ear and out the window. Just do your best, and let him think for himself. Don’t do the thinking for him. 

4. Love, love, love. This group has helped me so much in this area. I also watched a short clip on someone saying that every morning, he would ask his wife, “How do you want me to love you today?” And he has to do whatever she says. I tried this and I know he was touched and changed. Before that, I would also give him a massage in the morning (totally against my ‘honor women’ culture), but it shows love.

5. Pray for him, of course. I’m sure you’re already doing that.

Whatever I am telling you is from my own experience. He’s a gem now. Before this, I was in a loveless marriage. So I’m glad for what I have now.

Now my husband did his own research to find a course on engineering, made up his mind on getting a job on welding, started working on DIY projects all around the house, and is a sweet, loving hubby. And started correcting the kids gently. He is a totally changed man. Occasionally turns into his old self but only when dinner is late, he doesn’t have enough sleep, or kids screw up, we’re late for an appointment, etc. but on normal days, he is a great husband and father.

The Loveless Marriage

Your husband may sound like a terrible person. That’s because he chooses to be. He doesn’t need to always be that way. 

Sometimes it helps to suck it up and pretend like you’re a single mom already. I highly discourage you to go head on with him on this — like demand he man up. There’s no way getting love that way. That’s doomed to fail. I hope you’ve not done that before. 

There’s a difference between fighting for your rights and fighting for your marriage because you can’t have both. If it’s rights you want, it’s rights you get and you lose your marriage. But if it’s marriage you want, it’s rights you loose but down the road, there is possibility for love and rights.

Most women these days choose rights and lose everything. They’ll go to court for it. And they’ll win. But they leave empty hearted with a broken family. 

It may take years to come around but it will help if you pretend you’re already a single mom on one end and try your best to love on the other hand — may not be too late to try saving this marriage. Say nice things about him to your kids, make sure he hears you say that. Have them buy or make him something — may be small.

If you only have a few years left to save this marriage knowing how it will end, don’t miss this opportunity to save it. You don’t want to look back and tell yourself, “if only I did this or that, or tried harder”.

People will tell you he’s not worth it, or that you’re demanding too much of yourself but that’s love. It’s so worth it. Especially if it works. I don’t want to give you false hope but hope is the only thing we can hold on to when there is no love.

Look at yourself in the mirror, put on some make up, care for your hair, dress well. It helps to look appealing. That’s love, too. And food. Make his favorites. Treat him like the king of the house. Tell the kids you made his favourite because he is their dad and he deserves it. If he is working to support his family, he is not all that bad. See the best in him and focus on those. Appreciate, appreciate, appreciate. Teach your kids to appreciate. Give these last few years all you’ve got. 

I know he sounds like he is doing you a favor to hang around and that his life would be better without you and the kids in it, but we all know he is wrong. He doesn’t need to find out the hard way. Appreciate, appreciate, appreciate. Love, love, love. If you don’t have any love left in your cup, Jesus has plenty. It will overflow to you when you come to Him. And it will flood you.

If you need ideas to find work, try Facebook marketplace. You can look for work there, or post him as available for work, and even join some local community groups to post about your husband needing work. I know it’s not your job to do this. It really isn’t, especially without receiving love, but it’s really the last chance we have.

Also, this next suggestion may not seem appropriate to some but I do suggest having a check on his phone when he’s not around to see if he has porn in it. Check previous websites in history. Or recently watched videos in YouTube. Check even Facebook reels.

Most importantly, to pray and appreciate him for anything if you can. It’s hard but a loveless marriage is not loveless until you give up loving. 

I found my love in Jesus. And He is all I need.

Comment:

Aurel B:

💯  all of this!! I too went through a season of this she shares. And I was close to giving up, until godly woman told me this was spiritual warfare, that it was the enemy trying to split our  marriage to get to out children next. When I saw how serious I'm the spirit this was. God started to transform me, and the husband I once was resenting for all the pain he caused me, I felt so much grace,so much I cried for him, knowing and seeing he too needed Jesus,and the enemy was truly coming for him having a blast destroying him as he used him to destroy our marriage and family.  They don't know, but when God catches our attention and shows us, and we know we can't just let the enemy get away with destroying what is so precious to God. Marriage  and family. 

We are not alone  when God Is with us and we let Him take our battles. Help us ad instruct us out part, which is prayer,Intercession for husbands salvation,  and LOVING, RESPECTING HIM AS GOD COMMANDS.  TO DO OUR PART AS WIVES, to do unto our husbands as we were doing unto the Lord. Everything changes when we do it God's way and not let the enemy use our temporary emotions get the best of us. The process may hurt. But with Jesus taking charge. It is worth seeing the miracles he is still doing in broken, dead and gone marriages. He is still a healer. He is the resurrection power!, He is still a redeemer. And if He is for us  who dare against us. When HE IS GREATER IN US, than he who is in this world wreaking havoc destroying marriages, destroying children through broken families. 

Do not let him (the true enemy) get away with this! My restored marriage of brokenss of 17 years was not the last one God healed and restored. He is still in the business of restoration, redemption, healing, resurrection dry bones!! Speak live, love and truth! Over your marriage, your husband  truth! What the word of God says! Even if you feel crazy saying things that aren't, but thats what faith is! 

When I discovered that marriage was meant to make us HOLY, not primarily happy (though this does matter to God to) that was the day I took God's way of doing things as hard and painful as it was. I just couldn't let the enemy have this man thar was my husband,  I couldn't let him have my kids  and if God chose me little me, than I was going to trust God's ways not mines. 

What the enemy has meant for evil, even this God wil turn it for yalls good and he will get the glory! 

Ask God to help you see your husband through HIS (GODS) EYES. AND ASK Jesus to love your husband THROUGH YOU. (BECAUSE IT EILL BE VERY DIFFICULT ONYOUR OW FLESH TO DO SO) . 

WE LITTERALY NEED JESUS TO EMBODY US TO GO THROUGH THIS IN BROKEN MARRIAGES,WITH 2 BROKEN PEOPLE. BUT THANK GOD HE IS ALONE IS GOD AND HE CAN MENDS ALL BROKEN THINGS WITH HIS LOVE. 

DO NOT GIVE UP. 

YOUR HUSBAND MAY THINK HE IS DONT YOU a favor by staying. But you JOINING ARMS WITH GOD TO TAKE OVER AND LEAD YOU HIS WAYS IS FAR GREATER FOR THE ENTIRE FAMILY. DO IT HIS WAY! YOU WILL NOT REGRET IT. 

SPEND TIME WATCHING SERMONS ON MARRIAGE, TRUE MEANING OF MARRIAGE AND WHY ITS PRECIOUS TO GOD. SPEND TIME LISTENING TO SERMONS  ON SPIRIT WARFARE in marriage,  do not give time to the enemy to think of the pain your husband has caused. The enemy will know what type of games to play in your mind to continue to destroy you. Fill you mind instead with all things BIBICAL TEACHINGS AND WARFARE ON MARRIAGE.  WHICH WILL BE TRUTH ⚔️📖 THat fills you. It is WRITTEN! AND TELL THAT TO THE ENEMY WHILE HE TRIES TO FILL YOUR MIND WITH ALL THF HURT OF TODAY OR EVEN PAST IN MARRIAGE.  

YOU BELONG TO JESUS. YOUR HUSBAND BELOMGS TO JESUS  AND AS HIS WIFE YPU HAVE Authority to fight and intercede for Him. 

I have plenty of sermons you can start listening too, and gill your heart and ind with God's truth on how to handle this HIS WAYS!