Never marry one who is planning for a divorce.
All you need is a good chat with your future spouse. If you can't trust him with your money, you can't trust him with your body and you definitely can't trust him with your kids. If you don't trust him, don't marry him. Period.
Once you bring up the word, 'prenup', you bring up the word, 'divorce'. Once you bring up the word, 'divorce', marriage is unstable. There's nothing to talk about. It's off.
A marriage built on prenups is not a marriage; it's just a partnership.
A marriage with legality at its foundation rather than love and trust is not a marriage; it's a legal partnership with an exit.
Marriage has no exit. There is no Plan B. A marriage with a Plan B is a cup with a hole in it. It defeats the purpose of marriage. Might as well reside in a defacto relationship with a prenup. Don't call it marriage.
Men who ask for a prenup doesn't love his woman enough to die for her. And a woman that wants a prenup doesn't trust you with her life.
There is no genuine love and no genuine trust in a prenup marriage. A real marriage is selfless and sacrificial. You're willing to let go everything to enter into it, and don't expect any of it in return.
Before my husband and I got married, we had the chat. I was more well to do, but it was still pretty simple and went something like this, "As we are getting married, I just want you to know that everything I now have is yours -- my car, my company, my finances." The End.
It's do or die. Anything else is fake.
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