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Expiring at 30

Turning 30 and still can't find the godly and mature man you're looking for?


God's will for us is not always the ideal we have in mind. Sometimes we need to let go and let God decide. It takes years for that level of maturity and godliness you are looking for. You don't always get that the day you get married but you have to pray them into it. It is a process. This was the advice given to me by a godly woman when I was nervous about the man I was about to marry. She pointed at her husband and said, "Do you think he was always this godly and mature from the beginning? No, but as a wife, we have to pray them into it."


When I first prayed about a certain man that was interested in me, I took out my list: the 50 things I required, my criterion for my future spouse -- pray and fast weekly, does devotion, a good father, etc. God told me to take out my list, so I took it out. And then He said, "Now, start applying that to yourself, one by one." 


I had such high standards and expectations. But God hit me hard with reality. Its been 13 years since we got married. Is he the one? Yes. Is he all I ever wanted? It depends -- if all I ever wanted was God's will, then yes. If all I ever wanted was mine, then no.


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