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One last shot

If your husband is emotionally abusive, and you have given him a chance before and he blew it, you may have a right to leave but remember -- you have every right to stay. If he is repentant and wants to save this marriage, give it one last chance. And get him to do what you dictate -- counselling, no more yelling, etc. Just give it one last shot -- to save your marriage.


Luke 13:6-9

The Parable of the Barren Fig Tree

6 He also spoke this parable: “A certain man had a fig tree planted in his vineyard, and he came seeking fruit on it and found none. 7 Then he said to the keeper of his vineyard, ‘Look, for three years I have come seeking fruit on this fig tree and find none. Cut it down; why does it use up the ground?’ 8 But he answered and said to him, ‘Sir, let it alone this year also, until I dig around it and fertilize it. 9 And if it bears fruit, well. But if not, after that you can cut it down.’ ”


If you give up now, you have everything to lose. Give it one last shot and if it works out, you have everything to gain - your marriage, your family, and your husband. 


But make it clear -- he has to play by your rules or else. 


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