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Friend about to marry Mr Wrong

Q: I don't think he is treating her as well as a man should. I don't see him helping around. I felt she has to do everything. Should I advice her against it? Wedding dates are set! I think I'm close enough to share my thoughts to her as she appointed me as a bridesmaid. Others advised I should speak up because God wants me to say something to her.


A: Is she a Christian? Honestly, it doesn't matter what you think, or what she thinks, even. It all comes down to what God thinks. If she is a Christian, then ask her what God has said about it and what made her say yes -- what are the evidence that this is God's will -- just ask her to share her story -- it's not an interrogation, just find out a little bit more and see what she has to say. For all you know, there's nothing to be worried about. And if there is, it's not your place to say anything as a friend, unfortunately.


I've had friends who thought I was getting married too soon and tried to stop me but I knew it was God's will and went ahead. Our friendships only gets worse if these friends are still insistent I break it off even after I have explained myself and expressed my determination to go ahead. 


If you phrase your concerns more as questions, like "is he treating you well" and "does he help around" and "what do you think has he done to deserve his place", rather than expressing your views head on, you might get away with it. But I honestly doubt there would be a difference at this point. It's really more to give you peace of mind than to stop anything from happening if that makes sense.


Also, it's funny how people say the Lord is asking you to speak up -- did He really tell you to say anything?

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