The Learned

There has to be a balance. Taking care of the business is taking care of your husband but you do not have to choose between one or the other. Your job doesn't depict who you are. Remain humble inside especially towards your husband. It is a challenge but with God's grace, you can do this. He needs you. Being feminine has nothing to do with the outer appearance but the heart. And nobody can take that away from you. This verse is for you: Jeremiah 31:22 For the Lord has created a new thing in the earth— A woman shall encompass a man.” Encompass means to protect. I married my employee. My husband was working for me but God called us into a marriage. While I prayed for His will, God told me that if there should be any arguments that arise, it is my fault because of my pride. Because I was older (4 years), I had a master's degree while he only had a diploma (I have a doctorate now), I ran a company (he was my employee), I was better in English (it was his second language), I was...

I've read so many posts about women in a "toxic marriage". Christian women trying to fight for their rights in a "toxic marriage" can be very judgemental and not full of love but full of unforgiveness and anger. Women feel they have rights and we do. But sometimes you need to choose between your rights and your marriage, and no, you can't always have both but if I have to choose between fighting for my rights and fighting for my marriage, I'll pick fighting for my marriage because I gain nothing fighting for my rights. The world teaches us to fight for our rights but we are not of the world. It may sound shocking to the world, but there is no honor in fighting for your rights. And definitely no reward. If you dig deeper, it's about pride. And I don't want to fight for pride. I want to fight for something worth more -- love. Love is worth fighting for, not rights. Choose love. Words like "toxic marriage" and "toxic family" are ...

A lot of single women have too much idealism on their dream guy -- godly, loving, etc. With expectations come disappointments. Not everyone's marriage starts off with a guy all out for God. Some take years to cultivate this. I wish young Christian ladies will shake off that fantasy mindset and learn to settle for anything that God has put on their plate. When several women get the love of their lives, they make it a cookie cutter for all the other single Christian women. It's not always like that. Sometimes the guy that God has for you is not the ideal spiritual guy you have been waiting for because for some people, you have to pray him into it and it takes years and yet, somehow, this is the guy God has for you. I'm not God. And I don't ask why.

My mom saw Jesus twice. One was when she was pregnant. Jesus came through the window and took her by the hand and led her out through the window and showed her an answer to a decision she had to make. The second time was when she was praying in her prayer room behind locked doors. Jesus came and took her by the hand. She saw her body still kneeling on the floor. He brought her through the door and walked her to where the kids slept and told her what will happen to each one. Then walked her to where the church workers were doing their devotions in their pyjamas and told her who would be leaving and why. And then brought her back to her prayer room and her spirit entered her body again. When she went for breakfast with the church workers, they were wearing the exact same outfits so she knew it wasn't a vision but she actually went there in the Spirit. After praying for the food, all refused to eat but just stared at her. When she asked why, one of them said, "Pastor Lily, we wil...

Doing it for your kids makes you the hero. Don't consider it a small thing. Its a huge sacrifice and you are greatly honored for that. You made the right choice. They need you now more than ever and it's all worth it. You're pouring into lives. Sometimes, a mom is like a seed. And the seed has to die for new growth. But one day, you will realize that the time you have with them is so fleeting. So don't focus on what you are not but what you have. A few years left with them. Treasure it and you will blossom these last few years with them. If I were you, I would take them off school and homeschool them and try nature schooling or homesteading and just enjoy these precious moments. They don't last for long but they bring such healing.