The Learned

If there's one thing I know about kids rooms, it all boils down to making memories, not the actual outcome. No matter how nice something is, if the preparations were filled with arguments, it would bring bad memories. And no matter how terrible something looks, if it was made with love, it would bring good memories.

When my kids played Among Us, they kept giving each other chores to do. I was so surprised when one of them was assigned to "Help Mom". LOL I was thinking like.. this is a good game!!!

Is your house continually in a mess?  Number one to cleaning anything is making sure you are physically and mentally capable -- if you have enough supplements and insufficient sleep, you'll get mom brain anyway. Also one apple on an empty stomach has more caffeine than coffee. I do not want my body to get used to caffeine. I eat apples first thing in the morning now. It works. Also I stop carbs for lunch so I don't get sleepy after. When it comes to cleaning up the mess, I realized that it's always necessary to get to the root of the issue - the one who made that mess needs to clean up that mess. I know some messes were not created by someone capable of cleaning it -- toddler, guests, etc. and sometimes even.. hubby. But for the mess that was created by that person, especially the older kids, they need to clean up. If you clean up after them, they will never learn not to mess up and the house will never be clean It's tempting to just pick up after them especially if it...

It's a good time to talk about Sodom and Gomorrah... We are not sheltering our kids. We are keeping them for the right time. Jesus was not revealed to the world until he was 30. John the Baptist was in the wilderness for a long time, too. Moses was in the wilderness too. There is a period of preparation that our kids need to go through before they can "Go into all the world".  I talk more about that in my book, Kingdom Heirs: Raising Future Generations as World Leaders.

Please don't give up. Remember Smith Wigglesworth. There is hope. Pray for your husband everyday. I have a secret formula that I just found out recently -- intercession -- it's not what I thought it was. It's more than just crying on behalf of someone. It's praying on behalf of someone, like, Nehemiah, "Forgive us," he prayed on behalf of his forefathers. This means praying for your husband be like, "On behalf of my husband, Lord, Jesus, I pray, forgive my sins and help me to be more like You, help me to be a good dad and help me to draw close to You. Use me to be a mighty man of God, etc....." and just allow the Holy Spirit to lead you to pray him into the man He wants him to be. Things only took a turnaround on about the 9th year or so. It was so bad that even when I tried date night, like playing a board game with him, he will be on his phone playing his game. His heart was not into us at all. I learned from one of these godly moms in the comments...

It's not up to either of you nor is it our place to advice you. You both need to pray and seek the Lord for guidance on this. The Lord has led us as a family from one place to another. There is a time to move and there is a time to stay put. Ask the Lord for guidance. Also, submission to your husband and saving your marriage is more important than money. How to Pray: Both of you, go to a room, whether alone or together, close your eyes, ask God to give you guidance on whether to move or stay, and ask Him for a book, chapter and verse. Then wait for it with eyes closed. Wait for the book, chapter number and verse number. Read the whole chapter anyway, including the key verse.  It's hard the first few times but you'll get it over time, do it everyday as devotion. Get a notebook or Google Drive to write down what God is saying. Then match your verse and understanding with his. After a few days, you kind of know where this is going.

Hi there, this would have been me when I was 25. I was a pastor and single and can totally relate. I also had my own company at that time, which was like a tuition and homeschooling center while I was the children's ministry pastor and worship led at the main service and preached at youth services.  Hearing God's voice is key. My husband was spiritually much younger than me. And 4 years younger as well. Before we got together, he was a Bible School student, and I was a Bible School lecturer. He also worked for me part time. His first language wasn't English and we couldn't really communicate well. He was from interstate. I knew his parents (church leaders) since I was young but we weren't friends then. So I guess you can say we met in Bible School but we were barely friends either because of the language barrier. But to cut the long story short, someone who questioned him revealed to me that he liked me so I prayed and fasted about it without him knowing that I knew...