The Learned

I'm sorry. The pain is real. Unfortunately, only time can heal. The amount of time your relationship lasted for is usually the amount of time you would need to get back on your feet....  My advice:  1. Stay away from other guys for now, let it heal, or you'll end up in another relationship prematurely. 2. Spend time with the Lord and let Him be the One. 3. Be patient and let time heal it. 4. Meanwhile, do that which makes you happy. Even if it means finding a hobby or playing a favorite game. Get your mind off it. What you need to do eventually: 1. Get rid of everything he gave you, delete all his photos and photos of you together. It's called getting rid of soul ties. 2. Let him go. Imagine shutting the door and sending him into outer space or something.

Read 'Wild at Heart' by John Eldredge They don't like to be challenged, I think not. More like, needing us to build their confidence by saying, "You can do it." and "You have what it takes." and needs to be said by the father or a man they look up to. I'll need to explain -- there's something about guys that need to know if they have what it takes to be a man. And that needs to come from another man. The book also talks about gender assurance, and how the X and Y chromosomes are determined by the man. That's why men have a certain authority when it comes to gender assurance, on both sons and daughters. When dad says, "You have what it takes" to his son or "You are beautiful" to his daughter, it has a greater impact on gender assurance than if Mom were to say it. It's a powerful book. I highly recommend it. The opposite is true, tho -- without a father or father figure in their lives, boys feel that they don't have ...

Learn a new way to prayer. Intercession is standing in the gap as we know it. And what that may look like sometimes will sound something like this, "As my daughter, (insert name here), I apologize for my wrong behavior. And I ask You Lord Jesus to come into my life and make all things new. Please transform my heart and mind. Help me to know You as my Lord and Savior, as my Father and as my best Friend. Please show Yourself real to me. I really need You today." And pray that everyday. We are not fighting against flesh and blood but principalities and powers and rulers of darkness. Secondly, my suggestion is homeschool.

 

You are still a father. Your child is in Heaven, and has angels looking at the face of God in Heaven. You will be reunited with your child one day. Don't lose heart. Watch " Heaven Is for Real " and read the book. And you will make a great father to so many more, both biologically and spiritually.

Each of my children give a gift to each family member because the best part of Christmas is giving.  As a child, nobody asked me to give but my parents were pastors and I always saw my mom wrapping gifts for the whole church throughout Christmas Eve night and I just caught the spirit of giving, I guess. I started making and wrapping all kinds of presents for my siblings since I was about 7, and it carried on to family members and friends, then I added more and more church members over the years until I would end up wrapping gifts for every single church member I could think of and extras for new comers. On Christmas Morning when I got to church, I had about 3-4 XL paper bags of presents to give out to every church member in mind from a baby to the oldest person there... This tradition carried on even until after I got married. So as far as Christmas traditions goes, this memory is what I wanted to pass down to my own children. I start with the family -- each kid buys a gift for eac...