The Learned

We need to find the main cause for this -- usually when someone important to them does not value them enough -- usually a male figure, like a father or an older male doesn't show that they value them as much, they can tend to feel valueless. Or if they have done something embarrassing which they feel could make them feel less valued by society, etc. or if they feel like they've made a wrong decision and regretted it. Two wrongs doesn't make a right. This is why I feel that surrounding her with good people who will value her is important. She needs to know she deserves love and is highly valued -- precious. I would change school or homeschool if I were you. Also, give her new friends by attending safer social events like HouseYouth on Adelaide Rd (Fridays, 6.30pm) or Bridge Youth on Darling Avenue (Fortnightly, Thursdays, 6.30pm). There's also Energize Youth on Seventh Street (Fortnightly, Saturdays 6.30pm) -- any youth groups for that matter. They have people who genuin...

Totally disagree about finding time for yourself. Don't think it's important. I think it's a selfish illusion. Can't find biblical basis for it. Reading on this post is already self indulging so I guess if you can read this post, you've achieved your self indulging for today...  My two cents.. probably not worth a penny

Plenty of fish in the sea, if you ask me.  After all, what's the point knowing that one day after growing old together, both of you will die - someone will be right and someone will be wrong.. and you will be separated from eternity. If you're really sure your religion will bring you to a safe place, like heaven, wouldn't you want your loved one to be there? I think this is worth thinking about because nobody wants to get into a car and not know where they are headed to but just about everyone does that when it comes to relationships.

When my kids were 5 and under, I didn't even let them go to Sunday School even though the church had one. I wanted them in the service, in the presence of God with me. I brought a rug, toys, food, you name it. The secret really, is not giving them everything at once. I don't roll out my plan until the sermon has begun. This means that during the worship, my kids are worshipping with me -- I hold their hands (usually the youngest), to do some dance actions. The oldest will just stand or do their own. And when it gets to the end, I would hug them and worship standing, swaying until the littlest would fall asleep. Which is usually the case. If they're not asleep by then, I roll out the big plan. I start off with food, not even the rug. Literally one piece of cereal at a time until things get really restless, and then I bring in a different type of food. Like a half boiled egg with shells on. It will take some time to peel it off (of course with a container under). At this poin...