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Unhelpful Hubby

Q: What to do with an unhelpful hubby other than divorce?

A: 

No expectation, no disappointment. I like that you're a fighter and not giving into this world's cancel culture. Women these days just prefer 'Game Over' and 'Restart' with someone else. That's not real life. And that's not the right thing to do. Family is family. We don't leave family. No matter what.

In a marriage, rarely do any couples really get along. So give yourself a pat on the back. 

But if I've learned anything, it's that without expectations, there are no disappointments. If we decide to divorce our husbands, we would be single moms anyway. So sometimes I just live like a single mom without having to divorce my husband. It's totally fine -- if single moms can do it, I can do it. It's mainly a paradigm shift. Guys take longer to mature. We are not their moms -- they are not for us to correct.

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