The Learned

Divorce on the basis that you're struggling between juggling special needs kids and other responsibilities is just opening a new can of worms. Divorce isn't the answer -- Jesus is. Don't give up. Fight for your marriage and your kids. In the midst of it all, you lose yourself. It's ok to lose yourself. Lose yourself. That's fine. Life is about finding Jesus and dying to self. We must die daily.  He must increase, but I must decrease. John 3:30 Marriage is a choice, not a feeling. We made a vow and that's why we keep it. A covenant is a contract. And breaking a contract has consequences. We have to honour our contract -- for better or for worse. This too, shall pass. Share your heart to Jesus -- Jesus hears. Matthew 11:28-30 Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For My yoke is easy and My burden is light....

The fruits can only be reaped when it is ripe. Keep watering your plant. In other words, we cannot bear fruit of the Holy Spirit unless we spend time with the Holy Spirit until our fruit comes to a certain maturity. It takes time, especially if you're just a baby Christian. We can't grow up overnight. Patience is key. To learn to spend time with the Holy Spirit, read "Good Morning, Holy Spirit" by Benny Hinn. PDFs are available if you search for it. To hear from God, ask Him a question, then close your eyes and wait for a book, chapter and verse number. And it takes time but you'll get it. Practice everyday. Accuracy will improve when you practice.

To hear from God, ask Him a question, then close your eyes and wait for a book, chapter and verse number. And it takes time but you'll get it. Practice everyday. Accuracy will improve when you practice. If you are finding it hard to focus, it's something we need to practice everyday -- I take about an hour to focus sometimes. My mind goes all over the place. It takes a lot of mental discipline and focus. It helps to do it in the wee hours so nobody adds on to the distractions.  Some people suggest meditation which I strongly advice against, especially mindless meditation -- we are told to meditate on His Word, not on nothing, much less 'emptying the mind'. Psalm 1:2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD, And in His law he meditates day and night.

Most wives choose to confront their husbands about picking up after themselves because leaving it there means it will lie there till Jesus returns. I choose not to confront the man. I pick it up after him but in front of him ;) And I use it as an example when I need to during one of our "rare conversations" but in a nice way like, "I don't nag and I don't ask you to pick up after your stuff because I'm not your mom -- I'm your wife and we are partners. That's why I choose to keep quiet instead." He appreciates that. I've been keeping quiet for more than 10 years. It worth it.

Moms, raising our kids is NOT our purpose. That's our ministry. Don't confuse the two. Our purpose is not our calling or our ministry. That's just our job -- something He has entrusted us with, but we were not made specifically for that. When it comes to calling, we can always be replaced. God did not create Noah to build the ark. He found Noah to be the only righteous man left at that time. Don't mix our calling with our purpose. Many are called but few are chosen. They may not be chosen but that doesn't mean that they will not have a purpose anymore. Worshipping God is not our purpose either. It's what we do -- even the stones cry out -- but we were not created specifically for that -- He didn't just create us so He can have more worship -- He had plenty of angels to worship Him already. Having dominion on this earth is not our purpose either, but it is our responsibility. Our kid's responsibility is to clean their room but we didn't bring them int...

When someone loses a spouse, they tend to fill up that emptiness with stuff. That's what happens when people leave and there's loneliness -- be it children growing up and leaving the nest or someone passing away. Hogging is an unconscious action.  The only way to get rid of it is to fill the house with people again. Do it slowly, one room at a time, have family move in again, whether it is just to visit or to live permanently. Don't leave her alone but give her a reason to declutter and make space for family.