I don't think that people really understand Calvinism. I am not a Presbyterian or Baptist but I think people really twist what John Calvin meant, just because of lack of understanding. What he really meant was that God, in His sovereignty is both the beginning and the end. He is outside time, not like us. So He knows what is going to happen before it happens, and He knows the hearts of men. He knows who is going to accept Him, who will reject Him -- who has a chance and who doesn't. God knows, that some people will reject Him, no matter what, because their hearts and minds are made up, and every path led to the same outcome with this person. That's what I believe. God Himself is love. But He is all-knowing. He gave His Son to die for us only because He loved us. But He also knew who will reject Him even though He gave His everything for them. But at least He did His part, and He still died for the people He knew would reject Him. But he also knows the outcome of it which is...
Q: What to do with an unhelpful hubby other than divorce? A: No expectation, no disappointment. I like that you're a fighter and not giving into this world's cancel culture. Women these days just prefer 'Game Over' and 'Restart' with someone else. That's not real life. And that's not the right thing to do. Family is family. We don't leave family. No matter what. In a marriage, rarely do any couples really get along. So give yourself a pat on the back. But if I've learned anything, it's that without expectations, there are no disappointments. If we decide to divorce our husbands, we would be single moms anyway. So sometimes I just live like a single mom without having to divorce my husband. It's totally fine -- if single moms can do it, I can do it. It's mainly a paradigm shift. Guys take longer to mature. We are not their moms -- they are not for us to correct.