The Learned

Q: My hubby just got saved and is always praying in his office that he doesn't have time for me or our newborn and toddler. He wouldn't listen when I try to tell him that. Is going to church 4 days a week normal? A: He's on fire. Let him be for a while. I've seen worse complaints. He lacks a little spiritual maturity in this matter. He is like a young Christian. It's a good thing, but it won't be forever. So enjoy it while you can. He is a newborn Christian. And as a newborn Christian, he is naive and will make a ton of mistakes. You just need to be extra patient with him and tell yourself he will grow up one day and you'll miss this.  If you pour cold water on him now, whether directly or indirectly through someone else like a religious leader, two things could happen: he will either resist you even more (because of his lack of understanding, he will think you're not on fire enough) or he will be so discouraged (being corrected by a spiritual leader too...

Pray about it. You need to hear the Lord for yourself. Nobody can or should be telling you what to do especially when it comes to marriage.  So close your eyes, bring this matter up before the Lord and ask Him to tell you what to do. Pray for a book, chapter and verse in the Bible, then wait for it until it comes. (The first time usually takes longer but you get the hang of it.) After you receive it, read that whole passage anyway. Read the Bible like this everyday, especially when there is a question or issue on your mind.

Demonic dreams? Rebuke the dreams, take authority in Jesus' name. The devil has no right. Release the peace of God upon her. Lay your hands on her and say, "I release the peace of God upon you, in Jesus' name." And cover her in the blood of Jesus, "I cover you in the blood of Jesus, in Jesus' name," Ask her to read John 14

First of all, focus less on church growth and more on saving souls. There is a huge difference. The priority is not about how big your church is but about caring for the lost and saving them from hell, no matter which church they end up in.  True church growth comes when the church moves in power: healing, deliverance, signs and wonders. That's how Jesus did it and that's what we need to do: healing, deliverance, signs and wonders. So church growth is not something we do -- it's something God does. Matthew 16:18-19 And I also say to you that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build My church , and the gates of Hades shall not prevail against it. 19 And I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven, and whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.” Jesus said He will build the church -- not us. Our job is to bind and loose.

Firstly, homeschool all the way. Secondly, have his father be more involved in his life. From conception, it is the man who determines the sex of the child -- X and Y chromosomes. This is why when a man validates the gender of the child, the child believes him -- "You're my little princess," or "That's my boy!" is so important for gender assurance at a young age. Read, "Wild at Heart" by John Eldredge to understand about masculinity and how it works and what to say and not to say to your child for gender assurance. What the mom says somehow has less of an impact than what their dad says. I'm not here to judge but this behaviour is common with single parenting (no father) and absent or disconnected fathers.

Don't shorten it but rather emphasize on the purpose of reading -- not completing the Bible for the sake of completing it. But to receive the Rhema (alive and relevant for the day) word of God, and not just the Logos (unalive). We need to read with revelation but most importantly, we need to read with our hearts, not our head.  The Holy Spirit speaks to us, and He speaks to our hearts, when we read. Ask her to close her eyes and ask God to speak to her about an issue in her life that she needs help with. Then, ask God for a book, chapter and verse. And wait for it. This can take a while the first few times. Patience is key but she'll get the hang of it after a few days. Once she receives that, ask her to read that chapter and ask God to speak to her about it. It's so important not to water down the Word of God. My kindergarten had us all bring our NKJV bibles to class everyday. I was 5+ when I learned to read it. My daughter and I took turns to read that same Bible. She was...