The Learned

Q: Feeling awkward with friends that are barely making ends meet when we are very well to do financially. We go for long trips but I tell my kids to keep as much as possible a secret. I don't know how to respond when I hear my friends struggling to make ends meet. We give to church a generous donation every now and then but secretly. Answer: We've been blessed with a cruise and tickets to expensive theme parks, and flights. But sometimes I tell my kids not to tell anyone they've been on a cruise etc. and explain that not everyone has that chance. We are actually jobless and have been blessed by family members on these trips. However, I never expect my higher income friends to ever do anything for us or bless us in any way. We are all on our various journeys. There is a time to make ends meet and a time to prosper but never for once worry about others expecting anything or looking at you wrongly. We are sincerely excited for our friends who are better off because we know tha...

Q: My bf is a Christian but not born again or have a relationship with God, I don't think. He wants to be physical and says his only love language is physical touch. He struggles with lust. What should I do? A: It's a red flag, unfortunately. I strongly urge you to pray about this and whether or not he is God's will for you. Close your eyes, pray for a book, chapter and verse and wait until you see it in your mind. Then, be obedient to God no matter how painful it may be and when you feel like giving up, hold on to the Word of God. He will bring you through. It's worth letting go for the right guy. If sisterly advice here is not good enough to persuade you to leave this man, then I sure hope the Word of God will. If it matters, in my experience,... He is on the verge of sexually abusing you or is already trying to coerce you into sin. If so, it can only go downhill from there. Flee from youthful lusts which war against the soul (2 Tim 2:22, 1 Peter 2:11). In other words...

Whoever that's not first nations people should return to where they belong and give these first nations people their land back. All whites in the US and Australia need to go back to the British Isles, all Asians need to go back to their respective origin countries, all African Americans need to go back to Africa and which country did your ancestors originate from? More than one? Will have to split you up then.. in fact, will have to split you and your wife up as well.. say your goodbyes. Clearly, we have to give all these nations back to first nations people to live and govern while we all return to our ancestors homelands -- my ancestors are Adam and Eve. And I'm just getting packed for the Garden of Eden just about now. Guess I'll be meeting y'all there. Hope it's not too packed. Better be early to get a good plot of land. That's what happens when I'm sleep deprived. Goodnight.

Q: I have three kids but the last two were less than 12 months apart. My youngest is less than a year old.  I feel really embarrassed about the fourth even though we prayed for it. Any advice? A: I have three but when I was pregnant the fourth time, it was not meant to be. 6 weeks in and I had a miscarriage. Be thankful for what you have and treasure your family. Children are a gift from God. That was 5 years ago and we have been trying since. Just can't seem to have our fourth. Waiting for that rainbow baby that still hasn't arrived and my age is catching up. I'm turning 40 this year and still.. needing a miracle.

Q: I don't think he is treating her as well as a man should. I don't see him helping around. I felt she has to do everything. Should I advice her against it? Wedding dates are set! I think I'm close enough to share my thoughts to her as she appointed me as a bridesmaid. Others advised I should speak up because God wants me to say something to her. A: Is she a Christian? Honestly, it doesn't matter what you think, or what she thinks, even. It all comes down to what God thinks. If she is a Christian, then ask her what God has said about it and what made her say yes -- what are the evidence that this is God's will -- just ask her to share her story -- it's not an interrogation, just find out a little bit more and see what she has to say. For all you know, there's nothing to be worried about. And if there is, it's not your place to say anything as a friend, unfortunately. I've had friends who thought I was getting married too soon and tried to stop me bu...

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