The Learned

I married an acquaintance as well. It can get really bad just before it gets better after the first few years. We are now happily married even though there has been so many rocky roads. It's not easy and many times I thought it was the end.  There are so many reasons to quit but then again there are so many reasons to stay. Focus on the reasons to stay and not on the reasons to quit. We have now been married for more than 13 years and are practically love birds now. Sometimes it is the hard times that breaks down the barriers -- the openly raw times that shows who we really are -- which is needed for a healthy marriage. So don't be discouraged by the hard times. Good things can come from it.  Romans 8:28.  And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. And don't ever let anyone question whether it was the right choice to marry this guy because that's way over and what's done is done but...

If you're just starting out then read Not Without the Children by Clarine Chun. Understand that the children's ministry is not a ministry to the children but a ministry by the children.  It is not a babysitting service. But it is a part of an intergenerational family of God. Children can experience the power of God, if not more than any of us.

Watch Elijah Low's take and on AI and how God is using it. The video is called, "Built for AI". You can find it on YouTube. I highly recommend it. https://youtu.be/XGUuaUzDhII?si=pMGvAP6Cxju75D99

The greatest persecutor of the church is the church. Sometimes I think it's better for these people to be Mormon than not go to church at all. Let them be. At least someone is trying to save souls. We can't even do a fraction of what they're doing. They may have gotten their theology wrong but they still believe in Jesus and for all you know, that might actually be enough to get them to heaven. I'll take my chances and let them be.  Mark 9:40

I don't think that people really understand Calvinism. I am not a Presbyterian or Baptist but I think people really twist what John Calvin meant, just because of lack of understanding. What he really meant was that God, in His sovereignty is both the beginning and the end. He is outside time, not like us. So He knows what is going to happen before it happens, and He knows the hearts of men. He knows who is going to accept Him, who will reject Him -- who has a chance and who doesn't. God knows, that some people will reject Him, no matter what, because their hearts and minds are made up, and every path led to the same outcome with this person. That's what I believe. God Himself is love. But He is all-knowing. He gave His Son to die for us only because He loved us. But He also knew who will reject Him even though He gave His everything for them. But at least He did His part, and He still died for the people He knew would reject Him. But he also knows the outcome of it which is...

Q: What to do with an unhelpful hubby other than divorce? A:  No expectation, no disappointment. I like that you're a fighter and not giving into this world's cancel culture. Women these days just prefer 'Game Over' and 'Restart' with someone else. That's not real life. And that's not the right thing to do. Family is family. We don't leave family. No matter what. In a marriage, rarely do any couples really get along. So give yourself a pat on the back.  But if I've learned anything, it's that without expectations, there are no disappointments. If we decide to divorce our husbands, we would be single moms anyway. So sometimes I just live like a single mom without having to divorce my husband. It's totally fine -- if single moms can do it, I can do it. It's mainly a paradigm shift. Guys take longer to mature. We are not their moms -- they are not for us to correct.