The Learned

Q: Help. My brain can't comprehend what I'm reading. I'm think like a squirrel with zero attention span. Answer: My mother couldn't understand what she read, English being her second language but she read the Bible in the wee hours every morning, under a pen-light, under her pillow, secretly, so her father wouldn't notice. They shared a room. For years, he never found out. She's now a senior pastor with my dad, over several churches around the country. When you read the Bible, the Spirit is fed. It's not what your mind comprehends. Read with your heart.

And forgive us our debts, As we forgive our debtors. Matthew 6:12 But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. Matthew 6:16 Forgiveness is necessary to go to Heaven, yes. But forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. Regardless of how you feel, if you choose to forgive, just say the words, and say it aloud if you have to, "I forgive him." Like how Erika Kirk did it. It is unimaginably difficult but so necessary for your sake, not his. He wouldn't even know.  In fact, if you do not forgive him, you're only hurting yourself and risking your own salvation. Why give him more than you need to? He's already destroyed your past, don't let him destroy your future. If you want to heal, say the words, redeem your salvation, and don't give him another inch. Forgiveness is not saying he is innocent or that it never happened or that you weren't affected. Forgiveness means you are not allowing anymore of what has ha...

Turning 30 and still can't find the godly and mature man you're looking for? God's will for us is not always the ideal we have in mind. Sometimes we need to let go and let God decide. It takes years for that level of maturity and godliness you are looking for. You don't always get that the day you get married but you have to pray them into it. It is a process. This was the advice given to me by a godly woman when I was nervous about the man I was about to marry. She pointed at her husband and said, "Do you think he was always this godly and mature from the beginning? No, but as a wife, we have to pray them into it." When I first prayed about a certain man that was interested in me, I took out my list: the 50 things I required, my criterion for my future spouse -- pray and fast weekly, does devotion, a good father, etc. God told me to take out my list, so I took it out. And then He said, "Now, start applying that to yourself, one by one."  I had such ...

Two types of fasting -- the regular one meal a week type. And the full blown one week to forty days type because we have to make a life-changing decision or because we have reach a certain point in life where there is no where else to go but on your knees or that time when you feel a certain need in your heart to draw closer to God.

What are the main reasons you choose to send your kids to school? Homeschooling is the default, not the other way around. Our education system is new in respect to how old our world is.

When we are kids, we expect so much on our parents. Now that we are older, we are much more understanding and mature. Make it up to them -- tell them how you appreciate their presence. A lot of old people don't think they're needed or wanted and have to be told that their presence is appreciated.  This cancel culture today too easily writes adult parents off. We don't write off our parents nor do we replace them. We make sacrifices, at their terms, not ours, if we sincerely want them around.