The Learned

To hear from God, ask Him a question, then close your eyes and wait for a book, chapter and verse number. And it takes time but you'll get it. Practice everyday. Accuracy will improve when you practice. If you are finding it hard to focus, it's something we need to practice everyday -- I take about an hour to focus sometimes. My mind goes all over the place. It takes a lot of mental discipline and focus. It helps to do it in the wee hours so nobody adds on to the distractions.  Some people suggest meditation which I strongly advice against, especially mindless meditation -- we are told to meditate on His Word, not on nothing, much less 'emptying the mind'. Psalm 1:2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD, And in His law he meditates day and night.

Most wives choose to confront their husbands about picking up after themselves because leaving it there means it will lie there till Jesus returns. I choose not to confront the man. I pick it up after him but in front of him ;) And I use it as an example when I need to during one of our "rare conversations" but in a nice way like, "I don't nag and I don't ask you to pick up after your stuff because I'm not your mom -- I'm your wife and we are partners. That's why I choose to keep quiet instead." He appreciates that. I've been keeping quiet for more than 10 years. It worth it.

Moms, raising our kids is NOT our purpose. That's our ministry. Don't confuse the two. Our purpose is not our calling or our ministry. That's just our job -- something He has entrusted us with, but we were not made specifically for that. When it comes to calling, we can always be replaced. God did not create Noah to build the ark. He found Noah to be the only righteous man left at that time. Don't mix our calling with our purpose. Many are called but few are chosen. They may not be chosen but that doesn't mean that they will not have a purpose anymore. Worshipping God is not our purpose either. It's what we do -- even the stones cry out -- but we were not created specifically for that -- He didn't just create us so He can have more worship -- He had plenty of angels to worship Him already. Having dominion on this earth is not our purpose either, but it is our responsibility. Our kid's responsibility is to clean their room but we didn't bring them int...

When someone loses a spouse, they tend to fill up that emptiness with stuff. That's what happens when people leave and there's loneliness -- be it children growing up and leaving the nest or someone passing away. Hogging is an unconscious action.  The only way to get rid of it is to fill the house with people again. Do it slowly, one room at a time, have family move in again, whether it is just to visit or to live permanently. Don't leave her alone but give her a reason to declutter and make space for family.

It is completely fine for the worship team or worship leader to bring toddlers on the stage. Sometimes we are so religious that we become just like the Pharisees -- empty white-washed tombs. The church is God's family. And in the family, toddlers are allowed to be with mom anywhere they go in the Father's house. In fact, their angels see the face of God. Matthew 18:10 10 “Take heed that you do not despise one of these little ones, for I say to you that in heaven their angels always see the face of My Father who is in heaven.

If your husband is emotionally abusive, and you have given him a chance before and he blew it, you may have a right to leave but remember -- you have every right to stay. If he is repentant and wants to save this marriage, give it one last chance. And get him to do what you dictate -- counselling, no more yelling, etc. Just give it one last shot -- to save your marriage. Luke 13:6-9 The Parable of the Barren Fig Tree 6 He also spoke this parable: “A certain man had a fig tree planted in his vineyard, and he came seeking fruit on it and found none. 7 Then he said to the keeper of his vineyard, ‘Look, for three years I have come seeking fruit on this fig tree and find none. Cut it down; why does it use up the ground?’ 8 But he answered and said to him, ‘Sir, let it alone this year also, until I dig around it and fertilize it. 9 And if it bears fruit, well. But if not, after that you can cut it down.’ ” If you give up now, you have everything to lose. Give it one last shot and if it works...