Q: Help! Pushy mother in law! Hubby suggests to go no contact! Do I go no-contact?
A:
Relationships are important. Especially biological ones. Contrary to modern belief, I don't cut people off just because they have different values and are pushy. She is, his mother, after all, regardless of what he thinks.
So she has different values and tries to push it on him. Which is her right, regardless of his age. That being said, he still has a choice to reject her values and reject her. It is obvious he doesn't bother one bit. But. Cutting her off is a decision that belongs to you both. And you do not HAVE TO cut her off. If she wants to, she will. Let her do that, not you. If anything, let it be clear to her that you may have different values and what they are (in detail) but also make it clear that you will not cut her off -- that's not on you and you have no desire to make that call. She can either choose to respect your decision (does not mean she has to agree) or she can choose to cut you off herself.
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