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Boyfriend's ONLY love language?

Q: My bf is a Christian but not born again or have a relationship with God, I don't think. He wants to be physical and says his only love language is physical touch. He struggles with lust. What should I do?


A: It's a red flag, unfortunately. I strongly urge you to pray about this and whether or not he is God's will for you. Close your eyes, pray for a book, chapter and verse and wait until you see it in your mind. Then, be obedient to God no matter how painful it may be and when you feel like giving up, hold on to the Word of God. He will bring you through. It's worth letting go for the right guy. If sisterly advice here is not good enough to persuade you to leave this man, then I sure hope the Word of God will.


If it matters, in my experience,... He is on the verge of sexually abusing you or is already trying to coerce you into sin. If so, it can only go downhill from there. Flee from youthful lusts which war against the soul (2 Tim 2:22, 1 Peter 2:11). In other words, sister... RUN!

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