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Self Harm

We need to find the main cause for this -- usually when someone important to them does not value them enough -- usually a male figure, like a father or an older male doesn't show that they value them as much, they can tend to feel valueless. Or if they have done something embarrassing which they feel could make them feel less valued by society, etc. or if they feel like they've made a wrong decision and regretted it. Two wrongs doesn't make a right.


This is why I feel that surrounding her with good people who will value her is important. She needs to know she deserves love and is highly valued -- precious.


I would change school or homeschool if I were you. Also, give her new friends by attending safer social events like HouseYouth on Adelaide Rd (Fridays, 6.30pm) or Bridge Youth on Darling Avenue (Fortnightly, Thursdays, 6.30pm). There's also Energize Youth on Seventh Street (Fortnightly, Saturdays 6.30pm) -- any youth groups for that matter. They have people who genuinely care for your kids and capable of counselling in a way that doesn't feel like a therapy session.


Personally, I've changed my stance on Headspace after meeting some of their reps. And I cannot disclose why. It's just my two cents. But I wouldn't recommend it to anyone, unfortunately. Contrary to popular opinion, I think, as her parent, your love is what she needs. And Jesus.

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