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Splitting chores 50-50

First of all, the foundation of this is very wrong. To me a least. There's no such thing as 50-50. Everyone does their best in this marriage. And love, work and chores can't be measured.


Once you go down that road, you are bound for disaster. At the end of that road is fighting for your rights, "not my job", "do your job", etc. Disaster. A lot of couples have no idea. They split 50-50 like it's a business partnership. Once there is a split of jobs, there is a split in the marriage. The foundation of that mindset is not love but rights. You will end up splitting your assets and custody of your kids..


Never go down that road. The only way a marriage will work is if everyone does 110% and above. It's never easy. There's no one way to a marriage. 


Hacks? I can give you a few. First off, don't expect a perfect home. There will be nights when everyone is flat out and the dishes are not done. But the marriage stays. There are days when someone is sick, and the other just can't anymore. There are days when we are human. Let it go. Let go of that idealistic mindset of what a perfect house should look like and love your husband and your kids. There will be a day when there won't be kids anymore and only one spouse will be left. And you will have that perfect home.


Second hack. No mess, nothing to clean up. When cooking, use the least utensils and pots as possible. Try one pot meals. Cook in it, serve in it and save the leftovers in it, heat up with it. Nothing to clean up.


Third hack. Eat outside. I don't mean at the restaurant, I mean in the garden. The view is great and you don't have to sweep the floor when you are done. That saves one chore. Possibly two -- if you don't use a garden table, no table to wipe. And just imagine if you tried splitting your chores -- it will be so unfair -- especially to the one who's job is not wiping the table or vacuuming the floor! 

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