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Toxic Love?

I've read so many posts about women in a "toxic marriage".


Christian women trying to fight for their rights in a "toxic marriage" can be very judgemental and not full of love but full of unforgiveness and anger. Women feel they have rights and we do. But sometimes you need to choose between your rights and your marriage, and no, you can't always have both but if I have to choose between fighting for my rights and fighting for my marriage, I'll pick fighting for my marriage because I gain nothing fighting for my rights. The world teaches us to fight for our rights but we are not of the world. It may sound shocking to the world, but there is no honor in fighting for your rights. And definitely no reward. If you dig deeper, it's about pride. And I don't want to fight for pride. I want to fight for something worth more -- love. Love is worth fighting for, not rights. Choose love.


Words like "toxic marriage" and "toxic family" are all of the world. The devil likes to label them to get rid of what is precious to God. Once the devil can convince you to label your marriage as such or label your spouse or parent as a narcissist, that is basically the end of a marriage and family. It's like there is no hope left for it. Marriage and family are built on love. It's like calling it "toxic love" -- there is no such thing -- only a broken marriage and a broken family that needs prayer in perseverance.


Many have prayed their spouses to the point where they are today and it is worth it. Takes decades and roller coaster rides but so. worth. it. We are Christians. We don't give up. We pray. And speaking of rights, no one has a right to give up on their marriage without evidence of decades of prayer.

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"What? That's it? But then you loose your rights!"

"The hell with my rights!"

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