The Learned

There is only one perfect timing for marriage - God's timing. When my husband and I fasted and prayed about it separately and knew God's will was for us to be together, we then prayed about when it was His will for us to get married. God speaks. It is the couple's responsibility towards God to hear His timing for their marriage, ideally separately, and then compare notes. It doesn't matter how long they have been dating, or whether they are above 21 or whether they are working or whether they have a decent income. All that matters is what God says. Faith and obedience is our response. Listen carefully.

Q: Help! Pushy mother in law! Hubby suggests to go no contact!  Do I go no-contact? A: Relationships are important. Especially biological ones. Contrary to modern belief, I don't cut people off just because they have different values and are pushy. She is, his mother, after all, regardless of what he thinks. So she has different values and tries to push it on him. Which is her right, regardless of his age. That being said, he still has a choice to reject her values and reject her. It is obvious he doesn't bother one bit. But. Cutting her off is a decision that belongs to you both. And you do not HAVE TO cut her off. If she wants to, she will. Let her do that, not you. If anything, let it be clear to her that you may have different values and what they are (in detail) but also make it clear that you will not cut her off -- that's not on you and you have no desire to make that call. She can either choose to respect your decision (does not mean she has to agree) or she can cho...

You don't need to keep it in. You're not keeping it in for anyone. They need the real you.  And grief has different seasons. If it turns around, they will get lash out at you for being insensitive. Just be yourself.  Nobody needs you to be 'strong'. They need you to help them express their grief and they need someone to grieve together with them.

I have to admit, I was pretty shaken up after investigating one of the posts about satanists celebrating the winter solstice with Christmas trees, wreaths, garlands, and all things considered Christmassy. I knew the tree had pagan roots. I've done this research before, but can't remember why I chose to go ahead with the Christmas tree. I was sure I had a good reason, I just can't remember what it was. So I reinvestigated to see if I should come up with a different stance this year. It was clear the origins of the Christmas tree was pagan, and satanic, even. But I wanted to know which Christian decided to use it for Christmas and more importantly, why. So I came upon a post by Focus on the Family which led me to a piece of history, retold as the tale, "The First Christmas Tree". And now, I know why. Read the story here: https://www.classicshorts.com/stories/FirstXmasTree.html?fbclid=IwY2xjawOj1gZleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZBAyMjIwMzkxNzg4MjAwODkyAAEe2hqS87WQyGJ4r...

In the morning, I would get a book, chapter and verse from the Bible. That passage will tell me what our theme for the day is. Our Bible is our textbook. The only way to find out what we are learning for that day is by reading the Bible. But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you. John 14:26 2 Timothy 3:16-17 All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, 17 that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work. This is called JesusSchooling http://www.facebook.com/groups/jesusschooling LogosSchooling in JesusSchooling Those that prefer planning out their day can start with Genesis and end with Revelations each year. You can start by rearranging all your books and resources from Genesis to Revelations. So if you have a story book about a farm, for example...

We need to find the main cause for this -- usually when someone important to them does not value them enough -- usually a male figure, like a father or an older male doesn't show that they value them as much, they can tend to feel valueless. Or if they have done something embarrassing which they feel could make them feel less valued by society, etc. or if they feel like they've made a wrong decision and regretted it. Two wrongs doesn't make a right. This is why I feel that surrounding her with good people who will value her is important. She needs to know she deserves love and is highly valued -- precious. I would change school or homeschool if I were you. Also, give her new friends by attending safer social events like HouseYouth on Adelaide Rd (Fridays, 6.30pm) or Bridge Youth on Darling Avenue (Fortnightly, Thursdays, 6.30pm). There's also Energize Youth on Seventh Street (Fortnightly, Saturdays 6.30pm) -- any youth groups for that matter. They have people who genuin...